Interview with Malinda Williams and Tariq Walker!

 

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Malinda Williams, a compelling and amazingly talented actress/producer who’s played in some of our most beloved shows/films like Soul Food: The Series, A Thin Line Between Love & Hate, and The Wood! Tariq Walker, an award-winning journalist and successful media executive who’s made powerful waves in the digital media world. Together they have launched This Is Leaving, a Travel & Lifestyle Blog Site/Business that allows us to see beautiful scenic views and adventures, intertwined with love through their lenses. Recently, they allowed me to interview them. Here’s what the recently engaged couple had to say:

1. Where are you both from?
Malinda: New Jersey

Tariq: Philadelphia

2. Can we talk about your successful careers for a moment? Malinda, How did you get into acting and Have you always had a passion for it?
Malinda: I started acting when I was around 12. I started in television commercials and then transitioned to film and T.V. in my teens.

Tariq, what made you want to become a journalist and work in digital media? Is it something you’ve always dreamed of doing?

Tariq: I was drawn to journalism because of my love of writing and communicating ideas via the written word. My career in digital media began as a combination of my passion for writing and science fiction, combined with the growth and development of the internet. It seemed a perfect fit.

3. Can you tell us about your Travel and Lifestyle Blog Site/Business, This is Leaving and How it all came about?
This Is Leaving was an idea conceived from our love of travel and wanting to share our adventures and its benefits with our family and friends. We realized the impact on them, we decided we wanted to share that with a larger audience. We’ve since expanded it to include content production and our first e-commerce platform, Shopshesgotahabit.com

4. What place have you had your most memorable experience thus far and Why?

Our most memorable experience was probably the trip we took to Barcelona.

Malinda: For me, it was a way to connect with Tariq. He spoke the language fluently and I didn’t so I really had to rely on him for communication and getting around. I felt I was vulnerable and that helped build a trust between us.

Tariq: For me, It was our first trip to Europe together and she trusted me enough to let me to do all the planning which was meaningful. It showed she trusted in my abilities and that it laid an important foundation for our relationship.

5. What’s the most delicious food you’ve eaten thus far? Where and What was it? Tuscany and Monterosso, Italy. In Tuscany, we were blessed to have a private cooking lesson with the executive chef. We helped him prepare a tasty red shrimp risotto and strawberry tiramisu – ridiculously delicious!!!

6. Why is traveling so important? What are some benefits of traveling?

We get to have all of these great experiences…we learn about ourselves, about the world and about each other and we get to bring all the best parts of those learned experiences home.

7. What advice would you give to someone out there, who might be hesitant when it comes to traveling to new, and very different places?
We always say let love drive you, not fear, hesitation, doubt or the unknown. You’d be surprised how the world opens up to you, when you open up to it. There’s so much out there waiting for you to discover it. It’s amazing!

8. Any new projects coming up that you’re working on and can tell us about?
We just launched the first of 2 planned e-commerce platforms. She’s Got A Habit is a wellness, lifestyle and retail site all inspired by world travel. Shopshesgotahabit.com

Be sure to check out their site! https://www.thisisleaving.com/

 

Thank you both so much for taking time out!

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Linnea’s Purpose

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I used to always wonder what my purpose was in this life that I was gifted with. I could never really figure out what my calling was and I always found myself asking God, quite frequently to show me something. I just wanted something more, something big. I felt useless and unfulfilled which transitioned into depression. Now, I’ve dibbled and dabbled in many things like tap dance, dance in general, singing/songwriting, instruments, YouTube videos, and cooking. These are all great things and I like them. I do love music, even went as far as going into the studio. But, it’s not something I ever felt fully passionate about pursuing professionally. Even with doing all of these things, I still felt a void, and I still felt like it wasn’t my calling. It wasn’t my purpose. It didn’t move me nor did it move my soul.

When I was in Middle School and High School, I used to keep a journal. I wrote about my days, my experiences, things I was going through, and I wrote poetry. Oh and I wrote songs. Middle School was rough for me so writing helped me to get through it. When I got to High School, I started writing more and more. I wrote more songs, more poetry, and I wrote my very first story. The story was actually for a class and I received an A on it. It was about a girl who was possessed after staring into the snow and the story got weirder. Don’t know where the hell that story came from lol. My teacher loved it. I knew I was different lol. My teacher at the time, whose name I can’t remember for the life of me. He was an older gentleman with long gray Fabio type hair lol which he always wore in a ponytail, and he wore glasses. You know, he could’ve been kin to Sean Connery. Anyways, he told me to keep writing and to never stop. Of course I didn’t take him seriously at the time because I was young and dumb. I went on to graduate, went to college for a little bit to pursue a degree in forensics, and I stopped writing. I stopped writing. I had children and my writing got lost in my new life. My life revolved and still revolves around my family. Anything and everything I ever wanted to do was swept under the rug.

At the beginning of  2018,  I started writing again. I started to notice the feeling I got whenever I was writing. I felt joy, passion, and happiness. I felt really good! I enjoyed writing and I enjoyed reading. It eased my anxiety too which was a bonus for me! I had never shared any of my work with anyone except for my teacher. I was always private when it came to things like that. I was holding so much inside which was part of my problem and part of my struggles. Writing was my way of expression. Writing was my passion. It fulfilled me. Writing is my passion. Helping others is also my passion. So in September 2018, I finally decided to follow my dreams because life is so short. I launched my Blog in hopes of impacting and inspiring others through my words, my creativity, sharing my truth, and my experiences. I was nervous about my very first Blog Post because it was raw and very real. I was finally unleashing my weaknesses and struggles out into the world. For all to see and for some to judge. Weaknesses that have kept me dormant all these years. Though I knew I wanted to and I couldn’t risk caring about what people thought. I couldn’t allow it to stop me. I needed to build this blog on the shoulders of my transparency. I’m so happy that I did. So many people tell me everyday that I’m inspiring them, impacting them in some way, how they are now following their dreams, or starting their own blogs because of me. No I’m not a celebrity or even close to it. No I didn’t decide to do this just to please anyone other than myself. I did it because I wanted to. Yet, I’m still making an impact and trying to live a meaningful life in the process. That’s all I want to do. Do you know how great of feeling it is for people to look at you and go, “I got this”, “I can do this because she’s doing this”, “You’ve inspired me” because it is truly amazing!!! However, I’m not stopping there. I decided to start writing a book, an Erotic Thriller Novel, and I launched my Podcast recently because I need to go bigger. I thought writing brought me joy. Omg!!! This Podcast is definitely my calling as well!!!! I have so many ideas and places I want to take this new platform. I can reach even more people. I asked God to show me and he showed out. I have lots of work to do.

I wrote all that to write this, YOU HAVE TO PAY  GREAT ATTENTION TO WHAT MOVES YOUR SOUL, TO WHAT MAKES YOU SMILE ENDLESSLY, AND DO WHAT MAKES YOU HAPPY!!! Ask yourself why you’re in it. You can absolutely do anything you want to do. You can!! It is never to late to start and it is not impossible. There is room for us all to win, to be great, and to be successful! Always Remember this! Be well!

Thank you for taking time out to read this.

Breakup

To Whom It May Concern,

I can no longer be your crutch…

I took you down countless deadend alleys. I sought out your weaknesses and instigated them further. I took your smile away and tried to bury it. I made sure you were always in bad company because I knew you’d feed into it somehow, as usual. I’ve thrown you into the thunder and the lightning. I really tried to break you and I really wanted to destroy you. You see…I represent a dark place. A dark place that you kept on revisiting. You’ve kept me alive all these years, simply by visiting me, and supplying me with a well lit space in your thoughts. However, it is time for you to let me go. While I’ve enjoyed your company, my work here is done. The trail of obstacles I set before you, in an attempt to keep you stuck, couldn’t even go up against your unstoppable strength, your will, and your determination to change. Things you probably never even knew existed within you. Hell, things I never even knew existed within you. I killed your soul countless times. But each time, it was exhumed and resurrected. Your light blinded my darkness. I can’t even define you. I admit that I definitely underestimated you and I failed. What a great thing for your sake because I don’t fit into anymore of your chapters. I’ve given you all the tools you’ll ever need to live in the present. I lured your power and your purpose out onto the surface which means I can no longer be a part of your life. I won’t mix in well with your purpose nor your power. Now, you must only move forward and use me as a stepping stool into your greatness. Don’t look back.

 

Best Regards,

Your Past

 

 

 

Linnea’s Crown Affirmations

 

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THIS IS FOR ALL MY QUEENS!!

Repeat Daily…

 

  • I am a unique beauty.
  • I am an exquisite imperfect gem.
  • I am more than enough.
  • I am filled with mountains of strength.
  • My power is boundless. 
  • I can do whatever it is that I want to do, no matter how many people tell me no.
  • Fear will not survive, if it ever tries to break into my life.
  • Doubt is now a resident of my ancient memories.
  • I am built to surpass every storm of struggle.
  •  I’m going to get better because I know I deserve better.
  • I can build my own empire and create my own wealth.
  • When negativity trys to creep in through my door, I will shut it immediately.
  • I’m going to be okay.
  • It is my duty to believe in myself and to love myself even if no one else does.
  • If it’s a small dream or a big dream, it is still my dream. I will follow it until the end.
  • I will stay focused on my path and go to war with any obstacles that meets my eyes.
  • I see my potential and I will run to the stars with it.
  • I will never allow my past to define my evolution.
  • I will start forgiving myself and stop punishing myself for all the mistakes I was meant to make.
  • I will practice self care more and take better care of myself.
  • Quitting can never exist in my mind nor my vocabulary.
  • I will remove any and all things that creates toxins for me.
  • I am always fully responsible for my own happiness no matter what.
  • I sit on a solid throne. A throne that I’ve earned and built using concrete made of my own sweat and tears. A throne that I’ve taken my precious time building and I will not grant anyone’s access to tear me down from it. 
  • I am a Queen.

 

Book Review/June

I will be doing MONTHLY book reviews just FYI. I love to read!!

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I just finished reading Petals of Truth by Author LaToya Spencer. The words not only spoke to me. They spoke to my heart and my soul. I appreciated her transparency and relatable expressions. It’s filled with encouraging quotes and beautiful poetry that helps you to understand and to know that you are not beyond repair. If you have been through heartbeak, or abuse. If you lack self love, have low self esteem, or if you’ve ever been through struggles. ANYTHING!! This book gives you hope. I found myself talking out loud alot to myself lol reading it because I could deeply relate to what she has been through in life. I really enjoyed it! Check it out and Support this Queen!! You can purchase her book on Amazon and Find her on Instagram @toyaandrea

 

Linnea’s Intimate Project: The King Edition

I asked a group of men and women the same exact questions, in order to gain different perspectives and understanding on Relationships and Sex. Here are the questions I asked and here’s what the Kings had to say…

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Jamell Crouthers-Author, Poet, Podcaster

1. What’s your recipe for a healthy and successful  relationship? 
I would say trust, honesty, communication, being self-aware of yourself and who you are, having a sense of yourself and not depending on your partner for happiness.
2. Why do you think men in general have a hard time communicating their feelings? 
You have to take the time to look at how society is structured and the messages being told to us. Being strong, don’t emote, hold it together, be a leader. It’s hard to emote when from a young age, you can’t even do it.
I’ll give you a basic scenario of a young boy who falls and hurts himself and he cries, how many times have you heard, toughen up, you’ll be fine. We don’t let young boys emote so that becomes instilled in their minds that they can’t be open, vulnerable and sensitive. It’s looked at as being soft.
Then a child grows into a man and they’re listening to the world and how women want a tough, strong man and we take that as we can’t be too emotive and sensitive so there are a lot of factors that play into it, those are just some examples.
That’s why I address that in  the books I write because the messages being conveyed to us are all wrong.
3. Some people still believe in love at first sight and even marriage at first sight. Do you think the length of time you’ve known/met a person is a huge deciding factor in regards to making a commitment to them? Does it really matter? And why or why not? 
Yes and no. I’ve known people who were together 7-8 years before getting married and it works and some who have known each other a few months and get married and it works. It’s all in how the relationship starts. As my mother has instilled in me, “how a relationship begins, is how it will continue.”
It’s all situational honestly, it’s all in communication and showing who you really are and not a representation of who you want the person to think you are or perceives you to be.
4. Sex seems to play a major role in relationships. Should it play a major role and How important is the frequency of sex during the course of a relationship?
It should play a role but you have to be careful in how you word it. If sex is all you have a relationship, then there’s no substance and it will eventually end. There has to be shared interests, different interests, learning and growing with each other and having mentally stimulating conversations about life, goals, fears and a plethora of others things that you both may find important.
5. Some couples have been together for a very long time and they’ve had sex probably hundreds of times. How can a couple keep it spicy in the bedroom? 
Definitely having conversations about what you like and don’t like. Listening to each other during sex and seeing what stimulates them and working off of that. A perfect example, if you’re both into role play, then you’re doing those things to keep it fun and interesting. Communicating that will keep things fun and interesting.
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Donte V.-Realtor, Investor
1. What’s your recipe for a healthy and successful  relationship? 

 

A good relationship requires three things communicating, dating, and understanding how their partner wants to be loved. Communication is important but if you aren’t comprehending the message your partner is trying to communicate or your partner isn’t able to communicate their message, your relationship is destined to fail. Dating is sometimes underrated; especially when you have a career and kids. Dating is the driving force behind two people getting together. There are few people (if any) that entered a relationship without spending time together. Dating helps in maintaining a relationship long term.  People in general require different things to happy. Take time to figure out what makes your partner happy and communicate what makes you happy.

 

2. Why do you think men in general have a hard time communicating their feelings? 

I think people have issues communicating. I think it starts with a person understanding themselves and what they are really feeling. It can be difficult to talk about the core cause of an emotion. For example, a husband may complain to their spouse about how they are upset with them for not cleaning, but the real issue may not be the cleaning.  It may be that the husband grew up in a household where his mom was more active in the house and not seeing their spouse clean doesn’t fit what he considers to be a good relationship.

 

3. Some people still believe in love at first sight and even marriage at first sight. Do you think the length of time you’ve known/met a person is a huge deciding factor in regards to making a commitment to them? Does it really matter? And why or why not? 

I believe the length of time you’ve known/met a person isn’t a huge deciding factor. I briefly met someone years ago and recently had the opportunity to know them better. Within a short period of time (a few months) I wanted to completely commit to that woman. I also had experiences where it took a few years before I wanted to completely commit to a woman. Its hard to deny a real connection. Some connections are immediate and others take time to build.

 

4. Sex seems to play a major role in relationships. Should it play a major role and How important is the frequency of sex during the course of a relationship?

This depends on the people in the relationship. I have a high sex drive so regular sex is important to me. The transferring of sexual energy with the one you love is one of the most amazing things to me; something I cannot get enough of.

 

5. Some couples have been together for a very long time and they’ve had sex probably hundreds of times. How can a couple keep it spicy in the bedroom? 

A couple will have to find a way to add variety and spontaneity to their sex life. Couples who has a strong sexual chemistry, who are sexually compatible, and open minded sexually should be able to keep things interesting.  Its all about understanding what is stimulating to you and your partner.

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Kevin Williams-Investor
1. What’s your recipe for a healthy and successful  relationship?
A healthy relationship is a balance of spontaneity, trust, and fun. If you have all of these components, then you’ll never look elsewhere to be satisfied.
2. Why do you think men in general have a hard time communicating their feelings?
Men have a hard time communicating their feelings because we are consistently viewed as protectors and are always taught to be tough. Many times it’s hard to communicate our feelings because we take on this role and become numb to the realities of life. Showing feelings are almost always associated with weakness which we can’t or are encouraged not to show.
3. Some people still believe in love at first sight and even marriage at first sight. Do you think the length of time you’ve known/met a person is a huge deciding factor in regards to making a commitment to them? Does it really matter? And why or why not?
I personally dont believe in love at first sight, but I do believe the length of time that you’ve known person has a huge factor in making a commitment because you can’t build a bond with an individual that you dont know on a personal level. For instance, in my current relationship my girlfriend wanted a relationship before I did because I had to know for sure that she was who I actually wanted to commit to.
4. Sex seems to play a major role in relationships. Should it play a major role and How important is the frequency of sex during the course of a relationship?
I think it should play a major role in a relationship because if you’re not satisfied with your partner, you tend to look elsewhere. If you’re satisfied, there’s no reason to cheat. Frequency is Important because some people constantly want sex and some dont. In a relationship, it’s important to meet somewhere in the middle so that both people are satisfied.
5. Some couples have been together for a very long time and they’ve had sex probably hundreds of times. How can a couple keep it spicy in the bedroom?
Couples can keep it spicy by being open and spontaneous. If you have a sexual routine, it’s a problem. There should be no beginning middle or end, everything should happen naturally. Me myself, will feel a female out and try to cater to what she like, but will also show her a few things I like. If she’s not feeling it then I move on to something different. It’s all about feeling your partner out.

 

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1. What’s your recipe for a healthy and successful  relationship? 

There’s a lot of recipes to build a healthy and successful relationship, but I think it really starts with the ingredients. You gotta be happy first. Like, as an individual. Then you can have success in relationships. I can really say you need a lot of communication, a lot of sex and a lot of sacrifice and understanding. But all that aint gonna matter if you miserable on the inside. You gotta be happy with yourself first, then you can share each other’s when y’all get together. That will make it easier to talk problems thru, focus on taking care of each other and being vulnerable.

2. Why do you think men in general have a hard time communicating their feelings?

I think men communicate their feelings very well, we just don’t, and/or only show the anger feeling. LOL Girls were shown it was ok to show feelings. Boys weren’t. Girls didn’t get fussed at for crying, boys do. Boys get hurt and get told to brush it off and walk it off. Girls get comforted. I think that upbringing shows girls its ok to be open and ultimately talking about things that are on their mind, good or bad. As to boys, we a shown that our feelings often don’t matter, and we have to brush it off and walk it off. We feel like shit in a lot of cases, and a simple conversation could have helped us. But we know people don’t see men and vulnerability as a good thing. A grown woman could cry in the middle of the mall right now and people would run and help…mostly men probably. LOL But let a man burst into tears in that same spot. The police would be trying to comfort him.

3. Some people still believe in love at first sight and even marriage at first sight. Do you think the length of time you’ve known/met a person is a huge deciding factor in regards to making a commitment to them? Does it really matter? And why or why not?

If we are talking about marriage, time of knowing someone does matter. If we are talking just a relationship, then fuck time. Marriage, you need time. To see if yall will mesh. Because y’all doing this for a lifetime, so its key to do things like spend lots of time together, practice communicating with each other and marriage counseling. Ultimately, no amount of time will prepare you for it all. You wont know a person, really, until they are in those certain situations that will cause them to move a certain way. And that thing may happen 25 fuckin years down the line…ya never know.

4. Sex seems to play a major role in relationships. Should it play a major role and How important is the frequency of sex during the course of a relationship?

Sex is just as big a factor as communication. It needs to be to both parties satisfaction. AND both people need to be open to at least hear and talk about each other’s desires. Whether they down with them or not. Sex is major. Sex will keep you from sexing someone else. LOL

5. Some couples have been together for a very long time and they’ve had sex probably hundreds of times. How can a couple keep it spicy in the bedroom? 

Keeping it spicy is a challenge after so many years. I think there’s plenty of things you can do from toys to positions to foods, etc. I think just having a desire for the other will always keep your shit jumping for each other. I’ve seen old ass couple kiss all up on each other. I know they have a level of attraction to each other that has maintained over the years. And that helps I’m sure.

Linnea’s Intimate Project: The Queen Edition

 

I asked a group of men and women (I answered these questions too) the exact same questions, in order to gain different perspectives on Relationships and Sex. Here are the questions I asked and here’s what some Queens had to say…

 

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LaToya-Author, Mother, Motivator

1.What’s your recipe for a healthy and successful relationship?

My recipe for a healthy relationship is communication and honesty. I’m a firm believer that you need to be able to talk about everything and get on the same page and have a happy relationship.

 2. Why do you think men in general have a hard time communicating their feelings?

Honestly, I feel like men are taught that they are not supposed to show their feelings because they will look vulnerable and soft. Society and our culture has made it look like they’re supposed to be so manly and strong.

3. Some people still believe in love at first sight and even marriage at first sight. Do you think the length of time you’ve known/met a person is a huge deciding factor in regards to making a commitment to them? Does it really matter? And why or why not?

Timeline of knowing someone doesn’t always say how they will treat you or commit. I have been in a situation where I was treated better by the person I had been with not long opposed to being cheated on by the person that I was with for years. Still a strong believer in love at first sight.

4. Sex seems to play a major role in relationships. Should it play a major role and How important is the frequency of sex during the course of a relationship?

 

Sex is always a tricky thing. It sometimes doesn’t matter how often if you really want to work more on other parts of the relationship. But if one or both are very sexually attracted to the other than frequency is very important

5. Some couples have been together for a very long time and they’ve had sex probably hundreds of times. How can a couple keep it spicy in the bedroom?

When trying to spicy up the bedroom, sometimes actually going back to the first time wows you. Reenacting the first date, first time you got together, and giving an effort will be an exciting thing to make you remember why you begin your relationship in the beginning.

Hope this helps someone!

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Myesha-Fitness Enthusiast, Women Empowerment

1.What’s your recipe for a healthy and successful relationship?

God first and foremost! Also just being present, neither person never stepping outside the ring. Marriage is a fight against the enemy trying to tear to them apart.

2. Why do you think men in general have a hard time communicating their feelings?
Some men are taught that it’s their job to be tuff, and the woman’s job to be emotional. Or they just simply don’t know Jesus.
3. Some people still believe in love at first sight and even marriage at first sight. Do you think the length of time you’ve known/met a person is a huge deciding factor in regards to making a commitment to them? Does it really matter? And why or why not?
I don’t believe the length of time matters, if god made them for you there is no stopping it.

4. Sex seems to play a major role in relationships. Should it play a major role and How important is the frequency of sex during the course of a relationship?

No it shouldn’t solely be based on physical intimacy. I don’t believe you should be in it if that’s the only thing you’re concerned about mainly. Sex to me is the most enjoyable when it happens spontaneously.
5. Some couples have been together for a very long time and they’ve had sex probably hundreds of times. How can a couple keep it spicy in the bedroom?
By simply reminding your partner, that you know their wants and continually using your creative juices lol to steer the ship lol.
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Shanita“ Amazing” Williams-Poet, Entrepreneur

1. What’s your recipe for a healthy and successful  relationship?

Study your mate…learn their likes and dislikes so repetitive arguments don’t occur. Communicate…no topic should be off limits. Don’t just hear, listen…there’s a difference. Respect each other…you know damn well what boundaries shouldn’t be crossed so be prepared for the consequences if you decide to venture outside those boundaries. Similar goals…both should be driven to do better and want better. Sexual compatibility…your nasty must match your mates.

2. Why do you think men in general have a hard time communicating their feelings?

Men associate feelings with vulnerability…to be vulnerable is to be soft. So not true. Communicating your feelings doesn’t make you vulnerable…trusting someone with your feelings does. Choose your mate wisely.

3. Some people still believe in love at first sight and even marriage at first sight. Do you think the length of time you’ve known/met a person is a huge deciding factor in regards to making a commitment to them? Does it really matter? And why or why not?

Yes I think you should get to know someone in depth before committing because you have scenarios where someone impersonates being decent and thats not the case. However, twin flames, soulmates and the like are a different story because you may have already spent a lifetime with this person…your souls are already intimate.

4. Sex seems to play a major role in relationships. Should it play a major role and How important is the frequency of sex during the course of a relationship?

Well yeah! Major! I am a sensual being by nature and physical contact is muy importante’!😁 I’m busy trying to secure the bag so unfortunately I don’t have a lot of play time but a bomb ass session and a quickie or two with cuddles, kisses and groping in between is good for the week. It may sound harsh but truthfully, if amazing sex is not part of our relationship…we don’t have one.

5. Some couples have been together for a very long time and they’ve had sex probably hundreds of times. How can a couple keep it spicy in the bedroom?

5. Some couples have been together for a very long time and they’ve had sex probably hundreds of times. How can a couple keep it spicy in the bedroom?

Stay attractive to each other…Try new things; toys, places, positions. Have fun. Don’t be a selfish lover, it’s not just about you. Be attentive and don’t view sex as a chore. When you do it’s a wrap.

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Candice-Poet, Writer
1. What’s your recipe for a healthy and successful relationship?
A big thing for me would be UNDERSTANDING! You can talk to someone all day everyday about whatever it is that you want from them or what you want in general but if they don’t take the time to actually UNDERSTAND and COMPREHEND what it is then you’re just having a open, no end conversation.
Sex!!!! I’m not saying we have to have sex EVERY single day but at least a few times a week, because I’m a very sexual person and enjoy being touched and touching. I enjoy everything about sex and the actual pleasure that you bring to someone and receive in return can be AMAZING  if the chemistry is right with that person and if you once again have UNDERSTANDING! Lol.
Trust of course plays a MAJOR role in any type of relationship so I feel like that’s pretty much self-explanatory
Goals, I’ve been in relationships where it literally never went very far simply because we didn’t know how far we wanted to take things, and having goals in a relationship can go in different directions but if we don’t have a real purpose and really know where or what we are doing with the time we’re spending with each other then really what’s the point?
One last thing for me would have to be, we have to have built our relationship off of a friendship. I don’t see how people can meet someone and rush to be serious with that person without building some type of friendship in the process. When I do eventually find my soul mate or husband, we’re going to be the BEST of friends. We got to have each others back NO MATTER WHAT!! and at the same time be comfortable around each other and genuinely happy.
2. Why do you think men in general have a hard time communicating their feelings?
Easy! Because they’ve been hurt. I mean me as a woman we are meant to be emotional beings so it’s sometimes easier for us to express how we feel because we are built for it.
I’ve actually asked a few guys that I know this same question and they pretty much have given me the same answer. Either it’s an ego thing (you know men take that seriously) and they feel like as a MAN they aren’t built to be all emotional and shit and they have to be STRONG. Some guys have told me that sometimes if they express their feeling to someone they feel less of a man, weak, emotional.
but there are the guys who have just genuinely been hurt so much or bad that they don’t know what to say or how to express themselves when it comes to feelings. Like that part of their brain doesn’t work anymore or doesn’t exist so therefore they don’t have emotions. It’s crazy how many men I’ve met in my life that just would literally sit there, listen to me vent about my feelings for them and at the end would have NOTHING to say. It would be so hard to communicate with them because it felt like for me, they didn’t care.
3. Some people believe in love at first sight and even marriage at first sight. Do you think the length of time you’ve known/met a person is a huge deciding factor in regards to making a commitment to them? Does it really matter? and why or why not?
Love is personally one of my trickiest and most confusing feelings I’ve ever had to experience in my LIFE! This comes back to when I was saying how woman are emotional beings, we NEED LOVE!! No matter what any woman says or has been through, they want to be, and feel love!
I’ve experienced love at first sight, and I mean literally FIRST SIGHT. I didn’t know this man for 24hrs but when I looked at him it was like GOD spoke to me and said “That’s Him”. It was the HARDEST pill for me to swallow because I was scared out of my mind!! I knew what I felt in my heart, my body, my soul, was REAL, because I’d never felt this way just by looking at someone ever in my life!
It’s about feeling, you sometimes CAN NOT control how you feel about someone. No matter how much you fight it. If it’s real LOVE, it will NEVER GO AWAY.
I believe in love at first sight, I believe that time plays no factor on how you feel about someone because your first GUT feeling when you come meet someone is always how you really feel about them. Now things can always change after awhile, yes that is definitely possible but its up to you to know what’s real and what’s not. Go with how you feel, always. Time defines, time. You can never control time but you can control what you do with it.
4. Sex seems to play a major role in relationships. Should it play a major role and how important is the frequency of sex during the course of a relationship.
Goes back to the first question. Sex is only important to those who really enjoy it. You can look at sex in many different perspectives but if done responsibly it’s going to always bring you pleasure.
For some, respectfully sex doesn’t make or break a relationship, and that’s okay but me personally as I said before I enjoy sex and everything about it. Now it’s not required to have it everyday or every other day for a relationship to work out because if you be in a situation where you can’t see that person when you want to and distance becomes an issue, you can’t rely on sex to make things better or keep the relationship going. It has to be more than just sex that brings you and that person together and happiness.
Sex is something that you can say is one of the things that brings ya’ll together closer. Can’t be the only thing or the most important.
5. Some couples have been together for a very long time and they’ve probably had sex hundreds of times. How can a couple keep it spicy in the bedroom?
UNDERSTANDING! lol sorry but that word just keeps coming to my head. It’s important to have that ESPECIALLY during sex!!!! One thing about me I let a guy know straight up what I’m into, what my likes, dislikes and WILL NEVER IN THIS LIFETIME DO! One thing about me though, I’m open minded when it comes to sex….. to everything except for like 2 or 3 things lol but you do have to learn to have FUN!! Try new toys, games, hell even people. It’s all about you and your companion and trying things together can be REALLY fun as long as there is a MUTUAL UNDERSTANDING!! It’s all about WHATEVER your into and BOTH open and down to try… you never know how much pleasure you can give or receive unless you do different things!!! You only get one life! Have SAFE sex!! Tickle that inner sexual beast within you and turn the fuck up with you boo!!!
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Joanne-Decor and Designs

1. What’s your recipe for a healthy and successful relationship?

Trust, communication, respect, honesty & being attractive to each other

2. Why do you think men in general have a hard time communicating their feelings?

Men are so different than women. I think men are just used to keeping things to themselves as if it were a secret. They have a problem with not only communicating their feelings but, communicating in general.

3. Some people still believe in love at first sight and even marriage at first sight. Do you think the length of time you’ve known/met a person is a huge deciding factor in regards to making a commitment to them? Does it really matter? And why or why not?

Of course, it takes a long time to get to know someone (personality, flaws, etc). I could never make a commitment to anyone I don’t really know. If you don’t know him/her, nine times out of ten, he/she doesn’t know you either and what kind of relationship would that be (pretending). One things for certain is it will not last for long. So, I believe in “LUST at first sight”.

4. Sex seems to play a major role in relationships. Should it play a major role and How important is the frequency of sex during the course of a relationship?

Yes, it should play a major role. If you are with someone who is wanting to have sex every day of the week but, you only want it once a month (if that), there will definitely be some problems in the relationship. Men most likely will cheat to satisfy their sexual desires.

5. Some couples have been together for a very long time and they’ve had sex probably hundreds of times. How can a couple keep it spicy in the bedroom?

By trying different things that each will enjoy. Definitely communicating what each likes.
Having fun & enjoying each other’s intimacy

 

 

 

 

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Linnea-Blogger, Motivator, Aspiring Author

1. What’s your recipe for a healthy and successful relationship?

Communication and Trust is KEY!!!! Jesus please communicate!! It’s a necessity for ANY relationship!

2. Why do you think men in general have a hard time communicating their feelings?

I think men don’t always know how to express themselves to us women, in a way that they feel we would understand.

3. Some people still believe in love at first sight and even marriage at first sight. Do you think the length of time you’ve known/met a person is a huge deciding factor in regards to making a commitment to them? Does it really matter? And why or why not?

I don’t think the length or how long you’ve known a person really matters. I believe that everyone has a soul mate out here and when you know ya KNOW!! It’s a feeling you cannot ignore nor deny!

4. Sex seems to play a major role in relationships. Should it play a major role and How important is the frequency of sex during the course of a relationship?

It should not. I’ve said it a million times and I’ll say it again. Strip away the sex from the relationship and What do you have left? Do you have anything left?  If you want a solid relationship, then it must be built on something more than sex!

5. Some couples have been together for a very long time and they’ve had sex probably hundreds of times. How can a couple keep it spicy in the bedroom?

Gotta keep it spicy! Experiment with everything! Well..maybe not everything lol. Role play, and try different toys. Watch porn! Learn some new moves, tricks and new ways. You have to be open to new things which can satisfy you both!!! I mean its gonna get boring if you don’t make some type of effort! Have you checked out Kama Sutra and the art of satisfying. Just for example lol.

Get freaky and Get nasty lol!!

 

 

 

Thanks ALL for participating!😃