To all my Fellow Bloggers who participated in Blogmas, WELL DONE!!!! It is not easy coming up with 25 Blog Posts and to be clear I had only planned out some of these posts. For most of them, I was just winging it, and I did not stick to only holiday themed posts. It’s especially hard to meet such a challenge, if you have lots of other things on your plate of life. I almost quit a few days back LOL!! I attempted Blogmas last year and I failed. But this year I completed the challenge, and what an awesome challenge it was! I’m proud of myself and you should be proud of yourself!!! If you took the time out to read my Blog, THANK YOU SO MUCH!!! I hope you enjoyed my creativity, expressions and thoughts. My hope as with any of my Blog Posts, is that you leave here inspired, motivated, that your thoughts are provoked, and maybe you’re a little hot and bothered LOL! I thoroughly enjoyed this, and now I will be taking a break from this Blog!!
Now, it’s time for me to enjoy Christmas and spend time with my family!❤️
M E R R Y C H R I S T M A S!!!!!!!!!
B E W E L L!!!!!
Do you have a Fake Friend in your circle?
We’ve all had a fake friend or two or three. You really have to pay close attention to the company that you keep. Fake friends tend to slip right underneath your nose without detection most of the time. It’s easy to miss because they usually appear and pretend to be something they’re not. They do it so well because they have perfected their fraudulent craft. The million dollar questions are, How can you tell if your friend is fake and is showing you fake love? Well it’s simple kind of.
- Have they ever given you several backhanded compliments? For example they may say to you, “I love your outfit today. You look so much better with your makeup on.” For the record, there is a difference between telling your friend the truth and being shady. You get my drift!
- Do they act totally different towards you around other people?
- Do they treat you differently around other people?
- Do they constantly try to compete with you?
- Does it seem as if they judge every single thing that you do?
- Have they ever betrayed you?
- Have they ever lied to you?
If you’ve answered yes to some or all of these questions, you probably have a “fake friend” in your circle. The thing is, most fake friends are also disloyal, shady, jealous, envious, and they were never really fond of you to begin with. It’s twisted actually which is why you must pay close attention. People will always show you who they are. Though it isn’t always evident right away. But the signs are there. This kind of friend can be dangerous. Jealousy mixed in with envy can equal trouble for you. Make sure you reevaluate your circle of friends and readjust if necessary.
I’ve always been a researcher. I don’t take the words of others to mind permanently nor do I take it to heart. I like to seek my own answers. Recently, Trump was impeached. The word impeachment brought excitement and pure joy to most. Lots of people (NOT ALL) immediately took to social media to express their elation because they understood that to mean, he would be removed from office effective immediately. Not knowing or understanding that it’s a process. Impeachment is great and all. But now it must move to the Senate, and they will make the final decision for actual removal. The Republicans control that house which means he most likely won’t actually be removed. Unfortunate, yes. It seems that many people are not very in tuned with politics and how it operates. You should know that I used to be the same way. Politics was so boring to me and I felt like it didn’t affect me. I could’ve cared less! Now that my mentality has changed, I view politics quite differently. I view the world differently. Through time consuming research, I learned that in fact, it is an extremely important piece to life’s puzzle. It does affect me and it does affect you which brings me to the point of this post. If you don’t understand something, If you are questioning something that someone has told you, do your own research. You never have to accept one answer to anything. I’m not saying that you have to heavily indulge in politics. You don’t have to watch CNN all day or keep up with every single update. I’m simply saying at least research and learn how politics operate so that you can be knowledgeable. Knowledge is Power. I’m saying to simply learn how it affects you. Honestly, as with anything you should want to be well informed. I sure do!!!
Yes, I’m a lover of writing and reading. But I love films and shows as well. Here’s a list of shows/movies that you should be watching or already watched.
Queen of the South- USA and Netflix
Craig Ross Jr’s Monogamy-UMC
Game of Thrones-Inarguably THEE BEST SHOW THAT HAS EVER GRACED OUR TELEVISIONS-HBO
American Horror Story-Netflix and FX
Queen and Slim-At a movie theatre near you!
Harriet Tubman- At a movie theatre near you!
To be completely honest, I once considered having plastic surgery because I hated my body. After having three children, my stomach wasn’t as flat as it once was. I gained a considerable amount of weight, and I just wanted zero parts of my new body. At the time, I didn’t fully understand nor did I realize just how much my body would change after giving birth to three children. So, I decided that plastic surgery would prove to be the perfect fix. I was thin and fit once upon a time, and I wanted to get back to that. I wanted to get back to that body quick, and scrolling through social media didn’t help. I used to wear cropped tops all the time. My stomach used to be my most favorite part of my body. I was always showing it off and I wanted to be able to do that again. I wanted to wear bikinis on the beach. I just didn’t feel sexy, and I wanted to feel sexy again. I didn’t believe I could be sexy again or wear some of the same things until I fixed my body. My body wasn’t pretty and I hated what I saw in the mirror.
The internet is filled with false expectations, and misinterpretations of a woman’s body form. They lead you to believe that all women should have flat stomaches, small waists, and big butts. They want you to believe that once the baby is born, it’s all about the rapid bounce back or the snap back. It’s misleading and it has never been my reality. The truth is that all of our bodies are different, and respond differently after giving birth. There’s no need to rush, and there is nothing wrong with real natural bodies. Social Media has some of us questioning whether a woman’s natural body is real or not simply because so many women are getting surgery nowadays. It’s hard for some to believe the same body built in the operating room, can also be built in the gym. It can be done and it has been done. I was so close to jumping on that operating table because I was insecure, I fell into the social media trap, and I just felt unattractive. Then I woke up, and I thought about it more and more. I thought about it deeper. I had to ask myself some very imperative questions. Why was I doing this? What are the side effects? Is it going to fix my insecurities? Is it going to make me feel better? Is it going to make me pretty? Is it going to make me more desirable? Is it going to fix me? When I answered these questions, I knew that I couldn’t go through with the surgery. I couldn’t. Yes plastic surgery would’ve fixed my outer appearance, but it wouldn’t fix my struggles within. I had LOTS of struggles buried inside of me, and it would’ve only served as a temporary mask. I am in no way knocking women who’ve gotten or who are thinking about getting plastic surgery. Do whatever makes you happy! But you should know that plastic surgery is not a cure for insecurities, or a lack of self love and self validation. You can sweep your shit under the rug all day, but it’ll still be there under the rug, waiting on you to deal with it. I’m saying if you’re going to do it, make sure you’re doing it for the right reasons. No I didn’t go through with the surgery, but I did change my eating habits. I did go to the gym. I also started being more kind to myself, more patient with myself, and I started my long journey to self love. It sure wasn’t a quick process nor was it easy. However, it was worth it!!!
Why do you care about what others think about you? Why do you let other people’s opinions about you dictate what you do, and how you move in YOUR LIFE?! It is impossible to please everyone. Who has time for that? You have to make peace with the fact that, there are some people who will never love you, care about you, like you, or support you. They could care less if you’re successful or not. They’re not obligated to. They just don’t care and the sooner you realize that. The closer you’ll be to mental freedom. If you continue to allow people to have that kind of control over you, you will not travel far in life. You will not! I know that some people don’t like my Blog, Podcast, and maybe they won’t like my book. However, I’m still going to Blog. I’m still going to record Podcast episodes, and I’m still going to release my book. Yes, I’m going to keep doing and keep going. At the end of the day, I am in control of my life, and I’m doing this for me. I’m doing what I love, what makes me happy, and I am in charge of my own happiness. I don’t have room to entertain other people’s negative thoughts and opinions about me. I refuse to let it hinder me into suffering. You shouldn’t either. People are entitled to their own opinions, but you are in control of how you receive them.
Do what you want and drown out the unsolicited noise!
Dear Young Queens,
You are a QUEEN and you should carry yourself as such. You have a crown and you sit on a throne. A throne that has been kept warm by other Queens who came before you. You should know that you are special. You should know that you’re worth more than gold. You are a rare beauty and you come from long lines of rare beauties. Your soul is unmatched and fluorescent. You are a treasure QUEEN, and you are meant to be treasured. You’re powerful beyond measure. You just need to discover it, and use your power. You don’t need validation from others. You just need to validate yourself. You don’t need his love if he doesn’t want you to have it. You need to find self love, love yourself first, and foremost. There is no greater love. In case you didn’t know all of this already, let this serve as your constant reminder.
L I N N E A