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Interview with Jordan Joseph! — May 20, 2019

Interview with Jordan Joseph!

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Jordan Joseph had big dreams of becoming a singer since the age of 6, and has been working towards those dreams ever since. He is a true and genuine example of what determination, hard work, and focus looks like. At one point, Jordan was living out of his car while still working towards his goals and dreams. He never gave up which ultimately landed him a record deal with Nick Cannon and his Ncredible team. Jordan is working on his first EP. Recently, he allowed me to interview him and here’s what he had to say…
1. Where are you from?
I am from Kentwood by way of Grand Rapids, Michigan. Both Parents went to MSU so that’s where I was born the MSU campus.
2. What made you want to become a singer?
As a young boy my Step-Father was a producer to the stars and by 6 I was already dreaming of being a Backstreet Boy or in BOYZ2MEN. I would put on full shows to full albums making all my siblings dance as well. Music was a big part of my childhood at home and I dreamed of Hollywood as I had seen it but more than that I just loved the freedom of music and performing. It was an escape from my family issues.
 3. What does music mean to you?
 Music literally means the world to me. Music is a mood. Music is artist expression of a moment or story. What better way to feel something or make another heart feel something than by music, melodies, poetry etc.  Music literally means the world. I don’t even have a preferred genre, I love music. Real music makes you feel and can inspire an entire movement and change in the culture…in the world.
4. Who inspired you growing up?
Michael Jackson of course! Drake is also a big one. But I love so many artist of many genres. Usher and Chris Brown were big for me as well. I wanted to be a Backstreet Boy so there is that. Prince, J Holiday, Jon B. I am a huge Eminem fan and have been since “Slim Shady,” Since my dad worked with Usher and many other artist out at the time so many became huge inspirations. The Love frequency is were I want to live though.
5. Can you describe how your life has been impacted since working with Nick Cannon?
Wow, Since the moment with Nick I’ve spent most of my time rediscovering who “Jordan Joseph” the artist is. For so long the dream seemed more like chasing the sun. I didn’t realize how far I had run since I had become so use to running and surviving so far from home. I was once told “God will humble you in such a way that you will serve those that will one day serve you.” This stuck with me since because I have spent my life doing for others and working in the service industry. Since Nick I have been able to let up on that some. I have been able to get back to finding my voice having only know it in a group. I have spent much time with myself, but not as I was while living in my car but spiritually and mentally. As you saw there was a breathe of air ending my video with Nick, I’m currently breathing and finally working as an artist. I have experienced some very difficult moments in the business and its a lot of patience and confidence. I’m learning an loving. Most of all I’m coming!
6. You’re working on your first EP right? How is it going?
Yes, this is correct! Its coming along. This is a lot more work and waiting than imagine. I’m such a perfectionist an so in my head at times of recording music. To me everything can always “be better.” I’ve recorded some amazing music and met amazing producers. Still working on it though! Stay tuned! The music is so good!
7.What do you like to do in your free time?
  This is a hard one. In a real answer, “I don’t know.” Ive spent much of my life chasing the dream. I’m learning to live now that I have SOME time. I find myself at the movies solo a lot. I love to bowl! I love the beach! Man spent many nights at the beach looking at the moon and stars. Never know what you`ll see. Drop me in a room full of dreamers and great convo, otherwise look for me falling in love. I love the simple things. I haven’t been able to travel but I want to see the world. Share my story and spread some insight and love.
8. How do you stay so fit?
Listen, at 3 months old I was in a car accident that killed me. Thank God it wasn’t my time. The doctors said I wouldn’t walk, talk, or live as a normal child. I am very active! I love to try new things. I also worked at Equinox for 6 years and it created a healthy lifestyle for me in the gym and outside. Fitness and health is very important to me. Workout 3/5 times a week and eat healthy. I’m also a pescetarian.
9. What advice would you give to someone who maybe struggling and wanting to get into the music industry?
Never give up! If it is really in your heart and you dream about this, then never quit! The music industry is one of the hardest to break into for so many reasons. Its the industry where you can be who you want or who everyone wants you to be but there is NO easy way to break in. There is no right answer. Never forget to be true to who you are and measure success on your terms. I chose to be right to the world and somehow I landed a foot in the door. Now I am learning more about myself before I walk through it. You must walk with confidence in who you are. If you don’t believe who you are, how can you expect anyone else to? Have faith!!! And do everything from the heart.
10. What keeps you so grounded, humble, real, and down to earth?
You MUST take time for yourself yes, but what people don’t understand is you must also be present. Present in the world around you. Look up! Fall in love as it comes! Compliment and bring joy to others! Nothing feels better or feeds the heard and mind like bringing a sense of calm or joy to others. And as an artist these are the things you write and sing about. These are your stories. If that doesn’t help the gym and meditation daily helps!
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Thank you so much Jordan for taking time out!
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Linnea’s Intimate Project: The King Edition — May 17, 2019

Linnea’s Intimate Project: The King Edition

I asked a group of men and women the same exact questions, in order to gain different perspectives and understanding on Relationships and Sex. Here are the questions I asked and here’s what the Kings had to say…

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Jamell Crouthers-Author, Poet, Podcaster

1. What’s your recipe for a healthy and successful  relationship? 
I would say trust, honesty, communication, being self-aware of yourself and who you are, having a sense of yourself and not depending on your partner for happiness.
2. Why do you think men in general have a hard time communicating their feelings? 
You have to take the time to look at how society is structured and the messages being told to us. Being strong, don’t emote, hold it together, be a leader. It’s hard to emote when from a young age, you can’t even do it.
I’ll give you a basic scenario of a young boy who falls and hurts himself and he cries, how many times have you heard, toughen up, you’ll be fine. We don’t let young boys emote so that becomes instilled in their minds that they can’t be open, vulnerable and sensitive. It’s looked at as being soft.
Then a child grows into a man and they’re listening to the world and how women want a tough, strong man and we take that as we can’t be too emotive and sensitive so there are a lot of factors that play into it, those are just some examples.
That’s why I address that in  the books I write because the messages being conveyed to us are all wrong.
3. Some people still believe in love at first sight and even marriage at first sight. Do you think the length of time you’ve known/met a person is a huge deciding factor in regards to making a commitment to them? Does it really matter? And why or why not? 
Yes and no. I’ve known people who were together 7-8 years before getting married and it works and some who have known each other a few months and get married and it works. It’s all in how the relationship starts. As my mother has instilled in me, “how a relationship begins, is how it will continue.”
It’s all situational honestly, it’s all in communication and showing who you really are and not a representation of who you want the person to think you are or perceives you to be.
4. Sex seems to play a major role in relationships. Should it play a major role and How important is the frequency of sex during the course of a relationship?
It should play a role but you have to be careful in how you word it. If sex is all you have a relationship, then there’s no substance and it will eventually end. There has to be shared interests, different interests, learning and growing with each other and having mentally stimulating conversations about life, goals, fears and a plethora of others things that you both may find important.
5. Some couples have been together for a very long time and they’ve had sex probably hundreds of times. How can a couple keep it spicy in the bedroom? 
Definitely having conversations about what you like and don’t like. Listening to each other during sex and seeing what stimulates them and working off of that. A perfect example, if you’re both into role play, then you’re doing those things to keep it fun and interesting. Communicating that will keep things fun and interesting.
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Donte V.-Realtor, Investor
1. What’s your recipe for a healthy and successful  relationship? 

 

A good relationship requires three things communicating, dating, and understanding how their partner wants to be loved. Communication is important but if you aren’t comprehending the message your partner is trying to communicate or your partner isn’t able to communicate their message, your relationship is destined to fail. Dating is sometimes underrated; especially when you have a career and kids. Dating is the driving force behind two people getting together. There are few people (if any) that entered a relationship without spending time together. Dating helps in maintaining a relationship long term.  People in general require different things to happy. Take time to figure out what makes your partner happy and communicate what makes you happy.

 

2. Why do you think men in general have a hard time communicating their feelings? 

I think people have issues communicating. I think it starts with a person understanding themselves and what they are really feeling. It can be difficult to talk about the core cause of an emotion. For example, a husband may complain to their spouse about how they are upset with them for not cleaning, but the real issue may not be the cleaning.  It may be that the husband grew up in a household where his mom was more active in the house and not seeing their spouse clean doesn’t fit what he considers to be a good relationship.

 

3. Some people still believe in love at first sight and even marriage at first sight. Do you think the length of time you’ve known/met a person is a huge deciding factor in regards to making a commitment to them? Does it really matter? And why or why not? 

I believe the length of time you’ve known/met a person isn’t a huge deciding factor. I briefly met someone years ago and recently had the opportunity to know them better. Within a short period of time (a few months) I wanted to completely commit to that woman. I also had experiences where it took a few years before I wanted to completely commit to a woman. Its hard to deny a real connection. Some connections are immediate and others take time to build.

 

4. Sex seems to play a major role in relationships. Should it play a major role and How important is the frequency of sex during the course of a relationship?

This depends on the people in the relationship. I have a high sex drive so regular sex is important to me. The transferring of sexual energy with the one you love is one of the most amazing things to me; something I cannot get enough of.

 

5. Some couples have been together for a very long time and they’ve had sex probably hundreds of times. How can a couple keep it spicy in the bedroom? 

A couple will have to find a way to add variety and spontaneity to their sex life. Couples who has a strong sexual chemistry, who are sexually compatible, and open minded sexually should be able to keep things interesting.  Its all about understanding what is stimulating to you and your partner.

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Kevin Williams-Investor
1. What’s your recipe for a healthy and successful  relationship?
A healthy relationship is a balance of spontaneity, trust, and fun. If you have all of these components, then you’ll never look elsewhere to be satisfied.
2. Why do you think men in general have a hard time communicating their feelings?
Men have a hard time communicating their feelings because we are consistently viewed as protectors and are always taught to be tough. Many times it’s hard to communicate our feelings because we take on this role and become numb to the realities of life. Showing feelings are almost always associated with weakness which we can’t or are encouraged not to show.
3. Some people still believe in love at first sight and even marriage at first sight. Do you think the length of time you’ve known/met a person is a huge deciding factor in regards to making a commitment to them? Does it really matter? And why or why not?
I personally dont believe in love at first sight, but I do believe the length of time that you’ve known person has a huge factor in making a commitment because you can’t build a bond with an individual that you dont know on a personal level. For instance, in my current relationship my girlfriend wanted a relationship before I did because I had to know for sure that she was who I actually wanted to commit to.
4. Sex seems to play a major role in relationships. Should it play a major role and How important is the frequency of sex during the course of a relationship?
I think it should play a major role in a relationship because if you’re not satisfied with your partner, you tend to look elsewhere. If you’re satisfied, there’s no reason to cheat. Frequency is Important because some people constantly want sex and some dont. In a relationship, it’s important to meet somewhere in the middle so that both people are satisfied.
5. Some couples have been together for a very long time and they’ve had sex probably hundreds of times. How can a couple keep it spicy in the bedroom?
Couples can keep it spicy by being open and spontaneous. If you have a sexual routine, it’s a problem. There should be no beginning middle or end, everything should happen naturally. Me myself, will feel a female out and try to cater to what she like, but will also show her a few things I like. If she’s not feeling it then I move on to something different. It’s all about feeling your partner out.

 

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1. What’s your recipe for a healthy and successful  relationship? 

There’s a lot of recipes to build a healthy and successful relationship, but I think it really starts with the ingredients. You gotta be happy first. Like, as an individual. Then you can have success in relationships. I can really say you need a lot of communication, a lot of sex and a lot of sacrifice and understanding. But all that aint gonna matter if you miserable on the inside. You gotta be happy with yourself first, then you can share each other’s when y’all get together. That will make it easier to talk problems thru, focus on taking care of each other and being vulnerable.

2. Why do you think men in general have a hard time communicating their feelings?

I think men communicate their feelings very well, we just don’t, and/or only show the anger feeling. LOL Girls were shown it was ok to show feelings. Boys weren’t. Girls didn’t get fussed at for crying, boys do. Boys get hurt and get told to brush it off and walk it off. Girls get comforted. I think that upbringing shows girls its ok to be open and ultimately talking about things that are on their mind, good or bad. As to boys, we a shown that our feelings often don’t matter, and we have to brush it off and walk it off. We feel like shit in a lot of cases, and a simple conversation could have helped us. But we know people don’t see men and vulnerability as a good thing. A grown woman could cry in the middle of the mall right now and people would run and help…mostly men probably. LOL But let a man burst into tears in that same spot. The police would be trying to comfort him.

3. Some people still believe in love at first sight and even marriage at first sight. Do you think the length of time you’ve known/met a person is a huge deciding factor in regards to making a commitment to them? Does it really matter? And why or why not?

If we are talking about marriage, time of knowing someone does matter. If we are talking just a relationship, then fuck time. Marriage, you need time. To see if yall will mesh. Because y’all doing this for a lifetime, so its key to do things like spend lots of time together, practice communicating with each other and marriage counseling. Ultimately, no amount of time will prepare you for it all. You wont know a person, really, until they are in those certain situations that will cause them to move a certain way. And that thing may happen 25 fuckin years down the line…ya never know.

4. Sex seems to play a major role in relationships. Should it play a major role and How important is the frequency of sex during the course of a relationship?

Sex is just as big a factor as communication. It needs to be to both parties satisfaction. AND both people need to be open to at least hear and talk about each other’s desires. Whether they down with them or not. Sex is major. Sex will keep you from sexing someone else. LOL

5. Some couples have been together for a very long time and they’ve had sex probably hundreds of times. How can a couple keep it spicy in the bedroom? 

Keeping it spicy is a challenge after so many years. I think there’s plenty of things you can do from toys to positions to foods, etc. I think just having a desire for the other will always keep your shit jumping for each other. I’ve seen old ass couple kiss all up on each other. I know they have a level of attraction to each other that has maintained over the years. And that helps I’m sure.

Linnea’s Intimate Project: The Queen Edition —

Linnea’s Intimate Project: The Queen Edition

 

I asked a group of men and women (I answered these questions too) the exact same questions, in order to gain different perspectives on Relationships and Sex. Here are the questions I asked and here’s what some Queens had to say…

 

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LaToya-Author, Mother, Motivator

1.What’s your recipe for a healthy and successful relationship?

My recipe for a healthy relationship is communication and honesty. I’m a firm believer that you need to be able to talk about everything and get on the same page and have a happy relationship.

 2. Why do you think men in general have a hard time communicating their feelings?

Honestly, I feel like men are taught that they are not supposed to show their feelings because they will look vulnerable and soft. Society and our culture has made it look like they’re supposed to be so manly and strong.

3. Some people still believe in love at first sight and even marriage at first sight. Do you think the length of time you’ve known/met a person is a huge deciding factor in regards to making a commitment to them? Does it really matter? And why or why not?

Timeline of knowing someone doesn’t always say how they will treat you or commit. I have been in a situation where I was treated better by the person I had been with not long opposed to being cheated on by the person that I was with for years. Still a strong believer in love at first sight.

4. Sex seems to play a major role in relationships. Should it play a major role and How important is the frequency of sex during the course of a relationship?

 

Sex is always a tricky thing. It sometimes doesn’t matter how often if you really want to work more on other parts of the relationship. But if one or both are very sexually attracted to the other than frequency is very important

5. Some couples have been together for a very long time and they’ve had sex probably hundreds of times. How can a couple keep it spicy in the bedroom?

When trying to spicy up the bedroom, sometimes actually going back to the first time wows you. Reenacting the first date, first time you got together, and giving an effort will be an exciting thing to make you remember why you begin your relationship in the beginning.

Hope this helps someone!

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Myesha-Fitness Enthusiast, Women Empowerment

1.What’s your recipe for a healthy and successful relationship?

God first and foremost! Also just being present, neither person never stepping outside the ring. Marriage is a fight against the enemy trying to tear to them apart.

2. Why do you think men in general have a hard time communicating their feelings?
Some men are taught that it’s their job to be tuff, and the woman’s job to be emotional. Or they just simply don’t know Jesus.
3. Some people still believe in love at first sight and even marriage at first sight. Do you think the length of time you’ve known/met a person is a huge deciding factor in regards to making a commitment to them? Does it really matter? And why or why not?
I don’t believe the length of time matters, if god made them for you there is no stopping it.

4. Sex seems to play a major role in relationships. Should it play a major role and How important is the frequency of sex during the course of a relationship?

No it shouldn’t solely be based on physical intimacy. I don’t believe you should be in it if that’s the only thing you’re concerned about mainly. Sex to me is the most enjoyable when it happens spontaneously.
5. Some couples have been together for a very long time and they’ve had sex probably hundreds of times. How can a couple keep it spicy in the bedroom?
By simply reminding your partner, that you know their wants and continually using your creative juices lol to steer the ship lol.
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Shanita“ Amazing” Williams-Poet, Entrepreneur

1. What’s your recipe for a healthy and successful  relationship?

Study your mate…learn their likes and dislikes so repetitive arguments don’t occur. Communicate…no topic should be off limits. Don’t just hear, listen…there’s a difference. Respect each other…you know damn well what boundaries shouldn’t be crossed so be prepared for the consequences if you decide to venture outside those boundaries. Similar goals…both should be driven to do better and want better. Sexual compatibility…your nasty must match your mates.

2. Why do you think men in general have a hard time communicating their feelings?

Men associate feelings with vulnerability…to be vulnerable is to be soft. So not true. Communicating your feelings doesn’t make you vulnerable…trusting someone with your feelings does. Choose your mate wisely.

3. Some people still believe in love at first sight and even marriage at first sight. Do you think the length of time you’ve known/met a person is a huge deciding factor in regards to making a commitment to them? Does it really matter? And why or why not?

Yes I think you should get to know someone in depth before committing because you have scenarios where someone impersonates being decent and thats not the case. However, twin flames, soulmates and the like are a different story because you may have already spent a lifetime with this person…your souls are already intimate.

4. Sex seems to play a major role in relationships. Should it play a major role and How important is the frequency of sex during the course of a relationship?

Well yeah! Major! I am a sensual being by nature and physical contact is muy importante’!😁 I’m busy trying to secure the bag so unfortunately I don’t have a lot of play time but a bomb ass session and a quickie or two with cuddles, kisses and groping in between is good for the week. It may sound harsh but truthfully, if amazing sex is not part of our relationship…we don’t have one.

5. Some couples have been together for a very long time and they’ve had sex probably hundreds of times. How can a couple keep it spicy in the bedroom?

5. Some couples have been together for a very long time and they’ve had sex probably hundreds of times. How can a couple keep it spicy in the bedroom?

Stay attractive to each other…Try new things; toys, places, positions. Have fun. Don’t be a selfish lover, it’s not just about you. Be attentive and don’t view sex as a chore. When you do it’s a wrap.

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Candice-Poet, Writer
1. What’s your recipe for a healthy and successful relationship?
A big thing for me would be UNDERSTANDING! You can talk to someone all day everyday about whatever it is that you want from them or what you want in general but if they don’t take the time to actually UNDERSTAND and COMPREHEND what it is then you’re just having a open, no end conversation.
Sex!!!! I’m not saying we have to have sex EVERY single day but at least a few times a week, because I’m a very sexual person and enjoy being touched and touching. I enjoy everything about sex and the actual pleasure that you bring to someone and receive in return can be AMAZING  if the chemistry is right with that person and if you once again have UNDERSTANDING! Lol.
Trust of course plays a MAJOR role in any type of relationship so I feel like that’s pretty much self-explanatory
Goals, I’ve been in relationships where it literally never went very far simply because we didn’t know how far we wanted to take things, and having goals in a relationship can go in different directions but if we don’t have a real purpose and really know where or what we are doing with the time we’re spending with each other then really what’s the point?
One last thing for me would have to be, we have to have built our relationship off of a friendship. I don’t see how people can meet someone and rush to be serious with that person without building some type of friendship in the process. When I do eventually find my soul mate or husband, we’re going to be the BEST of friends. We got to have each others back NO MATTER WHAT!! and at the same time be comfortable around each other and genuinely happy.
2. Why do you think men in general have a hard time communicating their feelings?
Easy! Because they’ve been hurt. I mean me as a woman we are meant to be emotional beings so it’s sometimes easier for us to express how we feel because we are built for it.
I’ve actually asked a few guys that I know this same question and they pretty much have given me the same answer. Either it’s an ego thing (you know men take that seriously) and they feel like as a MAN they aren’t built to be all emotional and shit and they have to be STRONG. Some guys have told me that sometimes if they express their feeling to someone they feel less of a man, weak, emotional.
but there are the guys who have just genuinely been hurt so much or bad that they don’t know what to say or how to express themselves when it comes to feelings. Like that part of their brain doesn’t work anymore or doesn’t exist so therefore they don’t have emotions. It’s crazy how many men I’ve met in my life that just would literally sit there, listen to me vent about my feelings for them and at the end would have NOTHING to say. It would be so hard to communicate with them because it felt like for me, they didn’t care.
3. Some people believe in love at first sight and even marriage at first sight. Do you think the length of time you’ve known/met a person is a huge deciding factor in regards to making a commitment to them? Does it really matter? and why or why not?
Love is personally one of my trickiest and most confusing feelings I’ve ever had to experience in my LIFE! This comes back to when I was saying how woman are emotional beings, we NEED LOVE!! No matter what any woman says or has been through, they want to be, and feel love!
I’ve experienced love at first sight, and I mean literally FIRST SIGHT. I didn’t know this man for 24hrs but when I looked at him it was like GOD spoke to me and said “That’s Him”. It was the HARDEST pill for me to swallow because I was scared out of my mind!! I knew what I felt in my heart, my body, my soul, was REAL, because I’d never felt this way just by looking at someone ever in my life!
It’s about feeling, you sometimes CAN NOT control how you feel about someone. No matter how much you fight it. If it’s real LOVE, it will NEVER GO AWAY.
I believe in love at first sight, I believe that time plays no factor on how you feel about someone because your first GUT feeling when you come meet someone is always how you really feel about them. Now things can always change after awhile, yes that is definitely possible but its up to you to know what’s real and what’s not. Go with how you feel, always. Time defines, time. You can never control time but you can control what you do with it.
4. Sex seems to play a major role in relationships. Should it play a major role and how important is the frequency of sex during the course of a relationship.
Goes back to the first question. Sex is only important to those who really enjoy it. You can look at sex in many different perspectives but if done responsibly it’s going to always bring you pleasure.
For some, respectfully sex doesn’t make or break a relationship, and that’s okay but me personally as I said before I enjoy sex and everything about it. Now it’s not required to have it everyday or every other day for a relationship to work out because if you be in a situation where you can’t see that person when you want to and distance becomes an issue, you can’t rely on sex to make things better or keep the relationship going. It has to be more than just sex that brings you and that person together and happiness.
Sex is something that you can say is one of the things that brings ya’ll together closer. Can’t be the only thing or the most important.
5. Some couples have been together for a very long time and they’ve probably had sex hundreds of times. How can a couple keep it spicy in the bedroom?
UNDERSTANDING! lol sorry but that word just keeps coming to my head. It’s important to have that ESPECIALLY during sex!!!! One thing about me I let a guy know straight up what I’m into, what my likes, dislikes and WILL NEVER IN THIS LIFETIME DO! One thing about me though, I’m open minded when it comes to sex….. to everything except for like 2 or 3 things lol but you do have to learn to have FUN!! Try new toys, games, hell even people. It’s all about you and your companion and trying things together can be REALLY fun as long as there is a MUTUAL UNDERSTANDING!! It’s all about WHATEVER your into and BOTH open and down to try… you never know how much pleasure you can give or receive unless you do different things!!! You only get one life! Have SAFE sex!! Tickle that inner sexual beast within you and turn the fuck up with you boo!!!
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Joanne-Decor and Designs

1. What’s your recipe for a healthy and successful relationship?

Trust, communication, respect, honesty & being attractive to each other

2. Why do you think men in general have a hard time communicating their feelings?

Men are so different than women. I think men are just used to keeping things to themselves as if it were a secret. They have a problem with not only communicating their feelings but, communicating in general.

3. Some people still believe in love at first sight and even marriage at first sight. Do you think the length of time you’ve known/met a person is a huge deciding factor in regards to making a commitment to them? Does it really matter? And why or why not?

Of course, it takes a long time to get to know someone (personality, flaws, etc). I could never make a commitment to anyone I don’t really know. If you don’t know him/her, nine times out of ten, he/she doesn’t know you either and what kind of relationship would that be (pretending). One things for certain is it will not last for long. So, I believe in “LUST at first sight”.

4. Sex seems to play a major role in relationships. Should it play a major role and How important is the frequency of sex during the course of a relationship?

Yes, it should play a major role. If you are with someone who is wanting to have sex every day of the week but, you only want it once a month (if that), there will definitely be some problems in the relationship. Men most likely will cheat to satisfy their sexual desires.

5. Some couples have been together for a very long time and they’ve had sex probably hundreds of times. How can a couple keep it spicy in the bedroom?

By trying different things that each will enjoy. Definitely communicating what each likes.
Having fun & enjoying each other’s intimacy

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Rashae-Hairstylist

1. What’s your recipe for a healthy and successful relationship?

First and foremost GOD must be sanctioned in the relationship, and being unequally yoked will potentially bring disaster. And ALWAYS maintain genuine trust, unwavering love, and an open and successful line of communication.

2. Why do you think men in general have a hard time communicating their feelings?

In my personal opinion I feel as though men already think “we” as in women are emotionally driven individuals and they just try to maintain the peace and keep alot of their thoughts and feelings far away from us . And I totally feel like how a man was raised would directly affect how they are in relationships and not just intimate relationships .

3. Some people still believe in love at first sight and even marriage at first sight. Do you think the length of time you’ve known/met a person is a huge deciding factor in regards to making a commitment to them? Does it really matter? And why or why not?

I completely feel like a potential couple should definitely take time to build a foundation first, without a strong foundation anything that is being built will eventually crumble and that goes for intimate relationships as well. People tend to not show their true colors right away and some people also come to a situation with ulterior motives. The best way to avoid any of this from happening and ultimately wasting your time is to take your time exploring the possibilities and truly learning your potential partner.

4. Sex seems to play a major role in relationships. Should it play a major role and How important is the frequency of sex during the course of a relationship?

Sex to me does not play a major role in my relationships, because if one or both of us, God forbid, lose the ability to actually perform sex acts, maybe due to sickness or illness the relationship still needs to maintain strength which is why once again a strong foundation is very important.

 

5. Some couples have been together for a very long time and they’ve had sex probably hundreds of times. How can a couple keep it spicy in the bedroom?

Keep it spicy by periodically asking your partner about any new sexual urges, any new fantasies, and any new desires. Individuals sexual needs can change just as individuals preferences can change. The only way that a person can remain satisfied, is if you truly desire to make sure they stay satisfied. Its much more morally acceptable to request certain new sex acts from your current partner oppose to seeking it elsewhere, just ask your partner, “Baby Wassup? What you need? I GOTCHU”

 

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Linnea-Blogger, Motivator, Aspiring Author

1. What’s your recipe for a healthy and successful relationship?

Communication and Trust is KEY!!!! Jesus please communicate!! It’s a necessity for ANY relationship!

2. Why do you think men in general have a hard time communicating their feelings?

I think men don’t always know how to express themselves to us women, in a way that they feel we would understand.

3. Some people still believe in love at first sight and even marriage at first sight. Do you think the length of time you’ve known/met a person is a huge deciding factor in regards to making a commitment to them? Does it really matter? And why or why not?

I don’t think the length or how long you’ve known a person really matters. I believe that everyone has a soul mate out here and when you know ya KNOW!! It’s a feeling you cannot ignore nor deny!

4. Sex seems to play a major role in relationships. Should it play a major role and How important is the frequency of sex during the course of a relationship?

It should not. I’ve said it a million times and I’ll say it again. Strip away the sex from the relationship and What do you have left? Do you have anything left?  If you want a solid relationship, then it must be built on something more than sex!

5. Some couples have been together for a very long time and they’ve had sex probably hundreds of times. How can a couple keep it spicy in the bedroom?

Gotta keep it spicy! Experiment with everything! Well..maybe not everything lol. Role play, and try different toys. Watch porn! Learn some new moves, tricks and new ways. You have to be open to new things which can satisfy you both!!! I mean its gonna get boring if you don’t make some type of effort! Have you checked out Kama Sutra and the art of satisfying. Just for example lol.

Get freaky and Get nasty lol!!

 

 

 

Thanks ALL for participating!😃

Interview with Dominique Loude! — May 16, 2019

Interview with Dominique Loude!

 

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Dominique Loude has been dancing since the age of 10 which ultimately landed her a well deserved spot dancing alongside Beyoncé. Dominique is an inspiration to MANY and is building her own empire. She recently allowed me to interview her…

1. Where are you from?

Detroit, MI

2. At what age did you start dancing and How would you describe your dancing style?

I started dancing at the age of 10 but didn’t take it Seriously until I was 16. I would say I’m a pretty versatile dancer but my go-to is dancing in heels

3. What made you want to get into dancing?
I was a kid that did everything. From playing the piano to singing. One day I decided to take a dance class and the rest is history. I fell in love with it.
4. Who inspired you growing up?
Growing up my biggest inspiration was my mom because of how strong she was. I watched her endure so much pain and she never folded.
5. If you could only use 3 words to describe your experience on OTR2 tour, What words would you use?
Growth, love, and happiness
6. How has being on that tour impacted your life to this day?
This tour made me love myself more and realize that I deserve everything coming my way. It opened up more doors for me and changed my outlook on life period. Working with Beyonce made me realize the work is never done. There’s always more. More to give more to do. My work ethic was already crazy lol but now it’s like what’s next. I can always go harder.
7. What do you like to do in your free time?
I don’t have much free time but when I do I like to chill lol. Sometimes go out with my friends
8. What advice would you give to someone wanting to become a Professional Dancer?
Believe in yourself. Work like your already successful. Train train and more training!!! Do your homework! Stretch!
9. What keeps you so grounded, humble, real and down to earth?
I know where I come from and I know that as quick as something can be given it can be taken away!
10. Any new projects you’re working on and can tell us about?
Working on my dance line and looking for a building for my dance studio.
Thank you so much for taking time out and You are truly an inspiration to us all!
Grass — April 4, 2019

Grass

I wanted to take a walk since the weather was so nice. I brought a blanket, my pen and a notepad with me because I wanted to find a new sanctuary where I could write. On my travels, I saw a field with beautiful green grass. I was so drawn to its fresh smell and well groomed appearance. So, I decided to explore it further. Where I come from, there are no fields of grass. Only dirt on top of more dirt mixed in with trash. Not to mention the fact, that the noise level in my home was beyond out of control!! Needless to say it was a very stunning sight to see. A sight that I have never been accustomed to. A change I greatly and so desperately needed. A change I welcomed with opened arms! As I was walking through the grassy field, I was so happy and smiling. I was consumed with tranquility. I could hear the birds chirping, the wind blowing slightly and it was warm. A sense of peace came over me like never before. I could hear myself think and I was calm. It just felt so good to have a change of scenery. I continued walking through the grass and found the perfect spot. I laid out my blanket, took out my pen and began writing. It was just me, plus nature and I loved it! It was a dream to be able to have such peace and quiet while trying to work on my first book. Nobody else was around. I thought maybe I was the first to discover this gem. After two hours of refreshing focus, I packed up my things and began retreating back to my residence. Mannnnnn…I couldn’t wait to return the next day. My new sanctuary! I started walking out of the field and heard a loud sound. But, I couldn’t make out what it was. So, I just kept on walking. Then, I heard it again, turned around and nothing. So, I started walking faster. Heard the sound again and I hauled ass! I was almost out of the field. Then, I saw a shadow, it looked like a person. I couldn’t really make it out that well and it was odd. I kept running towards it because I thought it was just some people which made me feel less panicked. However, the shadows kept multiplying and were coming towards me as I was running towards them. The closer I got, I knew something was off and I turned around running in the opposite direction. Only more shadows were coming at me from that direction as well. At this point I’m panicking and I needed to get out! They were closing in on me, surrounding me. Coming from every direction!! They were black shadows formed as people. Then all of sudden, I felt a hard pinch which made me scream out and I dropped to the ground crying in pain. I was sweating and going into a full blown anxiety attack! I closed my eyes praying this was all a dream, or maybe I was hallucinating and this couldn’t have been happening. I opened my eyes, the pain was gone and they were all gone. The shit was such a blur and I hauled ass again. This time I turned it up a notch like Flo Jo!!!! Finally, I made it back home. But the house was empty. I needed to tell someone what had just happened to me. Yet I knew no one would believe me. Really I don’t even know what happened to me myself. I walked up the steps stopping midway because I was in excruciating pain suddenly. The pain was coming from my leg, so I pulled up my pants leg and my leg was bleeding. It looked like something bit me. Turns out it was a snake bite and it landed me in the hospital for a week. Oh and the beautiful field I was in, was a crime scene just five years earlier. Go figure. 

 

M E S S A G E

 

 

 

 

Interview with Kimberly Elise! — March 23, 2019

Interview with Kimberly Elise!

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Kimberly Elise is an award winning actress, entrepreneur, and a mother of two. She has portrayed some of the most powerful roles in films like Set it Off, Beloved, Woman Art Thou Loose, Diary of a Mad Black Woman, and more! She is the founder of Kimberly Elise Naturals®, a line of hair products for natural hair, made of natural, and organic ingredients. She inspires me, and countless others! Recently, she took time out to allow me the opportunity to interview her. Check it out!! 

 

 1. Where are you from?

I’m originally from Minnesota.

 

2. What made you want to become an actress, and Have you always had a passion for acting?

Since I was a girl, I wanted to be an actress, an incredible dream for a simple girl growing up in Minnesota. I slowly nurtured my talent through school plays in high school and later on stage at Illusion Theater. Soon, I found work and could make a modest living in commercials in the Minnesota circuit before moving to Los Angeles with my baby (now my grown daughter and business partner!) and former husband, who sadly has since passed away.

3. How did Kimberly Elise Naturals ® come about, and Can you tell us a little bit about it?

Kimberly Elise Naturals® was drawn from a few sources of inspiration. When I went natural in 2012, I found that most of the products I was trying did not conform to my ethics as a vegan, nor were they very good for my hair. They were filled with Silicones, Mineral Oil, Propylene Glycol, and Phthalates… These are not chemicals I want near my body.

Furthermore, my blog KimberlyElise.combrought in so many questions from women who were very similar to me, in the sense that they were experiencing many of the challenges that I was going through as I became acquainted with my own natural hair texture. I began studying cosmetic chemistry and experimenting with my own DIY recipes for my friends and family. Soon Kimberly Elise Naturals® was born!

Kimberly Elise Naturals® delivers clean beauty exclusively for you. Our formulations are made without Sulfates, Parabens, Silicones, Mineral Oil, Propylene Glycol, Paraffins, Phthalates, Petrolatum, and Drying Alcohols.2224D1AF-6BBC-4EB3-95F1-6C1CBD829BE8

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4. What advice would you give to someone who’s thinking about going natural?

I suggest beginning the journey with our Kinky Coily Care Kit, which is a 4-step moisturizing system for women with coarse, kinky, coily hair. Your hair will be extremely hydrated and soft and will be less prone to breakage. You can also check out my eBook “Mane Principles” https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07DHWPC44. Next, find your favorite protective styles. Right now, I”m wearing long twists!

5. What’s your hair care regimen?

“I personally choose not to use my own hair for film and television productions. My hair requires weekly cleaning and deep conditioning, so I keep a promise to myself to give my hair the nurturing and attention it needs…When I’m in production on a project, I complete my Sunday hair routine by braiding my hair into a protective style that will fit under any wig or hairpiece I may have to use for work that week. This allows me to keep my hair nurtured and protected. My stylist at work can easily do her job without concern of damaging my hair.” -Excerpt From: Kimberly Elise. “Mane Principles: Your Guide To Kinky Coily Natural Hair Care.”

6. What advice would you give to someone wanting to become an actress/actor, and wanting to start a business or both?

Start by finding your authentic joy and love for the creation. Don’t put too much pressure on your dreams, just find joy in the experience of acting/creating. Start small: 10-minutes to an hour per day is perfect. Write, produce and edit short films to gain experience in front of and behind the camera. Meditate on the vision you wish to create, claim it as yours and deliver it to the universe. Keep your dreams private, don’t let people trample on them.

7. What keeps you so real, humble, grounded, and down to earth?

I’m from Minnesota, and honestly, we’re very humble grounded people because of the cold weather. Also, my family keeps me in check!

8. Any new projects coming up, that you’re working on, and can tell  us about?

https://shadowandact.com/kimberly-elise-joins-brad-pitt-and-ruth-negga-in-sci-fi-adventure-film-ad-astra  

Thank you so much for your time! ❤️

Make sure you check it out! KimberlyEliseNaturals.com

 

Her Process — January 29, 2019

Her Process

13D807C3-C08A-4A08-A4C7-B7BD3ADAD0DA.jpegI love to write. As much as I love writing, I get writers block like many, and sometimes I don’t know what to write about. Even though I have all these different thoughts flipping through my mind, about what I could write about. Yet, I still come to a block. At this point, I know it’s time to close my eyes, dig deep, and envision myself laying out on a beautiful beach. A beautiful beach with breathtaking sand, and scenic views. I’m taking in the sounds of the ocean which is music to my ears. The sun is shining, and it’s warm. But, not too warm. The ocean waves are light, steady, and the water is calming. I can hear ppl talking a little bit, and enjoying themselves. I allow the beach to move me with the waves, in whichever direction it compels me. It’s serene, and hypnotic. The beach is one of the very few places, where I find solace. Yes I LOOOVVEEE the BEACH!!!! I want to savor every minute because I know it’ll be over soon. Boom…just like that, it’s over! I open my eyes. But I can see, and think much clearer now. I get my paper, and pen out of my drawer. I’m ready to write from a place of struggle, brokenness, love, and understanding. I’m ready to write from a place of growth, bravery, confidence, and assurance. I allow the words to fly out, and land wherever they may. Only I don’t just let the words fly out without creativity. I want to write something in such a way that ignites others to follow suit. I want to write something that will move them, and provoke them. I want to leave them in awe with shock value, unaware that such words, thoughts, and feelings resides within me. I want to get them to a place of thinking outside the box, and who knows?!! Maybe their current way of thinking will be a thing of the past. I know that in order to do this, I must go into the case of my soul, remove the safety, and empty the whole clip. My soul tells me what to write, and the beach just leads me to it. 

Blogging My Way. 

 

Interview with Queen Ali! — December 13, 2018

Interview with Queen Ali!

404EEF50-DA8B-4050-B31C-A4E256F478C2You can catch her on Instagram in the funniest skits, pulling pranks on her longtime boo King Ali lol!! Queen Ali is a social media influencer,(A TRUE QUEEN) and a mother of 2! She’s beautiful, funny, real, cool, humble, intelligent, and down to earth!!! She so graciously allowed me to interview her, and I’m thankful!! 
1. Where are you from? 
I am from a very – I mean, VERY – small town in Massachusetts. I’m a Country girl, for sure! Do you know in the Horror movies, where people walk out of the house and you scream “Noooo, go back in!” It’s always pitch dark out, surrounded by trees with no street lights surrounding it. Yes, that’s where I live.
2. Have you always been funny, and what made you want to start doing Prank of love videos/funny videos? How did that come about? 
I think I’ve always been funny… and annoying… or a solid mixture of both. Since a child, I’ve always wanted to be the center of attention, which I believe has slowed down some as I’ve matured.
The funny skits that King Ali and I create, along with  “REAL Time, Our Time” and Prank of Love, all truly came about from our lives. This is how we are with one another, almost daily, and we decided to allow the world to be a part of SOME of the craziness! He tends to take things too far though; truthfully, I need to up my pranks a bit. I welcome all ideas – DM me, please!
3. How do you balance work with motherhood, and marriage?
Carefully! Although are not married – yet, it’s no different; balancing our relationship and the children is just as much work! We have two beautiful children, Adriel and Ayira, who we absolutely adore! We both work full time and have wonderful careers, as well. Adding being “Social Media Influencers” into the mix and it creates a whole new, time consuming, dynamic for us. I do not think I was quite ready. There were a LOT of long nights, often times where we would get 2-3 hours of sleep per night, then have to wake up and put on the “happy” face the next day. Let me add, “Sleep Debt” is a REAL thing – I still have hours I owe. Either way, we began finding ways to make it work, yet still be able to watch Power on Sundays and Empire on Wednesdays together. 80% of the time, our time together consisted of creating ideas and filming skits late night. Unfortunately, we’ve taken almost all of 2018 off from creating. We’ve had so much go on this year in our personal lives that creating just has not been a priority for us as of late. However, we do have hundreds of ideas that need to come to life, so we look forward to getting back to work in 2019!
4. What advice would give to a full time working  mom, wanting to follow her dreams, and wanting to use her social media platform as a way to do it? 
Honestly, I don’t even use my platform to its full potential, so I’m in no position to preach. The best advice I can give anyone is to be consistent with your passion or art (acting; singing; dancing; crafts, etc) and everything else will follow! I’d also advise her to really KNOW YOURSELF. Being transparent in the Social Media world can be draining. You deal with a lot of ups and downs, including people that will love you, hate you, and love to hate you! You must have thick skin and be able to balance the good with the bad, because it’s easy to become discouraged. Always remember why you’re doing this: feed the positive and cherish the good, which will allow you to continue to inspire and aspire.
5. What keeps you so real, humble, grounded, and down to earth? 
First off, thank you so much for the compliments! You’re so sweet! I’d honestly say the way I was brought up. If you ever met my parents and grandmother, you’d have a profound understanding of why I’m the woman I am today. Growing up, I always heard my grandmother say “there but for the Grace of God, Go I,” and I think that has helped mold me. I also understand that what God gives, he can take away. what’s important in life isn’t materialistic, so I live very simple and focus on loving and cherishing those closest to me, knowing that God will always provide.
6. Any new projects coming up, that you’re working on, and can tell us about? 
I have one that I can’t say TOO much about right now, but hopefully if everything goes as planned, you’ll see soon enough. (pray for ya girl this year) Also, I have a LOT of work to do in 2019, so hopefully you’ll see more of my face on all Social Media platforms.
Thank you girl. I appreciate the great questions, and your time.
 
If I don’t talk to you soon, have a WONDERFUL Holiday Season.
 
much love!
Interview with Tanya Scott — November 13, 2018

Interview with Tanya Scott

111FECAA-53B5-4164-90BD-FDCB671723DFTanya Scott is one of the stars, of the hit Reality tv show Little Women: ATL, a busy mother of three, Herbalist, and a BOSS! Tanya started a company called Life Body Naturals. She has a passion for healing, and helping people using natural products. She is successfully helping many people, on their roads to living a more healthier lifestyle. She inspires me, and countless others. Recently, Tanya gave me the opportunity to interview her. Enjoy!! 

 

1. How did you come up with Life Body Naturals, and what made you want to become a herbalist? Can you tell us a little bit about Life Body Naturals?
Life Body Naturals came from my passion of wanting to help people heal themselves. At a young age I lost my grandparents and uncle to cancer, strokes, liver disease, and mental illnesses. I didn’t want that for myself or my children. Life Body Naturals is a company dedicated to helping people feel better in their bodies and heal themselves from naturally the way Mother Nature intended. We have products to help boost the immune system, fight candida, parasites in the body, autoimmune disorders, build bone health, digestive health, infertility, painful + irregular periods, boosting breast milk supply, and helping moms stay healthy during pregnancy. We offer internal and external healing products for eczema, psoriasis, dermatitis, and acene. We also offer one on one consultations for those who need a more unique approach to their healing.

2. What’s your regimen as far as what you eat? How do you stay healthy?
I am sure to include herbal supplements into my diet daily as well as lots of water, leafy greens, and organic fruits and veggies.

3. How do you balance your business with having kids?
I make a schedule for myself so that I am working during certain hours of the day and week and give the rest of my time to my self care and to my family. I am sure that I don’t over work myself and that I get to spend time with my kids daily and take off regularly for my own self care.

4. What advice would you give to someone looking to start a business?
I’d advise anyone looking to start a business to make sure they know exactly what their goal is with their business. Make sure its something that will make them happy and make sure their marketing is A1. Promote promote promote and be patient. Get your name out there and make sure people don’t forget you. Leave a great first expression. Budget and make sure your income from your business can go back into your business to help you make even more sales. Love what you do and you’ll never work a day in your life!

5. What keeps you humble, down to earth, and grounded because I’ve watched you on some of your LIVE videos where you’re just shopping, cooking or just chatting it up with your fans?
I am grounded because I don’t put myself above others. I am grateful and humble that so many people love me and look to me for healing and advice.

6. Losing weight, and just being healthy is a constant struggle. If someone is looking to start eating healthy. What kinds foods should they start eating, and what foods should they stay away from?
They should definitely eat more leafy greens and focus on healing their digestive tract. Solar Fusion from my company lifebodynaturals.com can help with that. They should stay away from dairy and artificial sugars.

7. Are you working on any new products, and projects that we can look out for?
Yes! Make sure that you’re following me on IG and Twitter @tanyatehanna & @lifebodynaturals Twitter @lifebodynatural for all updates for the projects and new products I’m working on.

Thank you!