Linnea’s Intimate Project: The Queen Edition

I asked a group of men and women (I answered these questions too) the exact same questions, in order to gain different perspectives on Relationships and Sex. Here are the questions I asked and here’s what some Queens had to say…

LaToya-Author, Mother, Motivator

1.What’s your recipe for a healthy and successful relationship?

My recipe for a healthy relationship is communication and honesty. I’m a firm believer that you need to be able to talk about everything and get on the same page and have a happy relationship.

2. Why do you think men in general have a hard time communicating their feelings?

Honestly, I feel like men are taught that they are not supposed to show their feelings because they will look vulnerable and soft. Society and our culture has made it look like they’re supposed to be so manly and strong.

3. Some people still believe in love at first sight and even marriage at first sight. Do you think the length of time you’ve known/met a person is a huge deciding factor in regards to making a commitment to them? Does it really matter? And why or why not?

Timeline of knowing someone doesn’t always say how they will treat you or commit. I have been in a situation where I was treated better by the person I had been with not long opposed to being cheated on by the person that I was with for years. Still a strong believer in love at first sight.

4. Sex seems to play a major role in relationships. Should it play a major role and How important is the frequency of sex during the course of a relationship?

Sex is always a tricky thing. It sometimes doesn’t matter how often if you really want to work more on other parts of the relationship. But if one or both are very sexually attracted to the other than frequency is very important

5. Some couples have been together for a very long time and they’ve had sex probably hundreds of times. How can a couple keep it spicy in the bedroom?

When trying to spicy up the bedroom, sometimes actually going back to the first time wows you. Reenacting the first date, first time you got together, and giving an effort will be an exciting thing to make you remember why you begin your relationship in the beginning.

Hope this helps someone!

Myesha-Fitness Enthusiast, Women Empowerment

1.What’s your recipe for a healthy and successful relationship?

God first and foremost! Also just being present, neither person never stepping outside the ring. Marriage is a fight against the enemy trying to tear to them apart.

2. Why do you think men in general have a hard time communicating their feelings?

Some men are taught that it’s their job to be tuff, and the woman’s job to be emotional. Or they just simply don’t know Jesus.

I don’t believe the length of time matters, if god made them for you there is no stopping it.

4. Sex seems to play a major role in relationships. Should it play a major role and How important is the frequency of sex during the course of a relationship?

No it shouldn’t solely be based on physical intimacy. I don’t believe you should be in it if that’s the only thing you’re concerned about mainly. Sex to me is the most enjoyable when it happens spontaneously.

5. Some couples have been together for a very long time and they’ve had sex probably hundreds of times. How can a couple keep it spicy in the bedroom?

By simply reminding your partner, that you know their wants and continually using your creative juices lol to steer the ship lol.

Shanita“ Amazing” Williams-Poet, Entrepreneur

1. What’s your recipe for a healthy and successful relationship?

Study your mate…learn their likes and dislikes so repetitive arguments don’t occur. Communicate…no topic should be off limits. Don’t just hear, listen…there’s a difference. Respect each other…you know damn well what boundaries shouldn’t be crossed so be prepared for the consequences if you decide to venture outside those boundaries. Similar goals…both should be driven to do better and want better. Sexual compatibility…your nasty must match your mates.

2. Why do you think men in general have a hard time communicating their feelings?

Men associate feelings with vulnerability…to be vulnerable is to be soft. So not true. Communicating your feelings doesn’t make you vulnerable…trusting someone with your feelings does. Choose your mate wisely.

Yes I think you should get to know someone in depth before committing because you have scenarios where someone impersonates being decent and thats not the case. However, twin flames, soulmates and the like are a different story because you may have already spent a lifetime with this person…your souls are already intimate.

4. Sex seems to play a major role in relationships. Should it play a major role and How important is the frequency of sex during the course of a relationship?

Well yeah! Major! I am a sensual being by nature and physical contact is muy importante’!😁 I’m busy trying to secure the bag so unfortunately I don’t have a lot of play time but a bomb ass session and a quickie or two with cuddles, kisses and groping in between is good for the week. It may sound harsh but truthfully, if amazing sex is not part of our relationship…we don’t have one.

5. Some couples have been together for a very long time and they’ve had sex probably hundreds of times. How can a couple keep it spicy in the bedroom?

5. Some couples have been together for a very long time and they’ve had sex probably hundreds of times. How can a couple keep it spicy in the bedroom?

Stay attractive to each other…Try new things; toys, places, positions. Have fun. Don’t be a selfish lover, it’s not just about you. Be attentive and don’t view sex as a chore. When you do it’s a wrap.

Candice-Poet, Writer

1. What’s your recipe for a healthy and successful relationship?

A big thing for me would be UNDERSTANDING! You can talk to someone all day everyday about whatever it is that you want from them or what you want in general but if they don’t take the time to actually UNDERSTAND and COMPREHEND what it is then you’re just having a open, no end conversation.

Sex!!!! I’m not saying we have to have sex EVERY single day but at least a few times a week, because I’m a very sexual person and enjoy being touched and touching. I enjoy everything about sex and the actual pleasure that you bring to someone and receive in return can be AMAZING if the chemistry is right with that person and if you once again have UNDERSTANDING! Lol.

Trust of course plays a MAJOR role in any type of relationship so I feel like that’s pretty much self-explanatory

Goals, I’ve been in relationships where it literally never went very far simply because we didn’t know how far we wanted to take things, and having goals in a relationship can go in different directions but if we don’t have a real purpose and really know where or what we are doing with the time we’re spending with each other then really what’s the point?

One last thing for me would have to be, we have to have built our relationship off of a friendship. I don’t see how people can meet someone and rush to be serious with that person without building some type of friendship in the process. When I do eventually find my soul mate or husband, we’re going to be the BEST of friends. We got to have each others back NO MATTER WHAT!! and at the same time be comfortable around each other and genuinely happy.

2. Why do you think men in general have a hard time communicating their feelings?

Easy! Because they’ve been hurt. I mean me as a woman we are meant to be emotional beings so it’s sometimes easier for us to express how we feel because we are built for it.

I’ve actually asked a few guys that I know this same question and they pretty much have given me the same answer. Either it’s an ego thing (you know men take that seriously) and they feel like as a MAN they aren’t built to be all emotional and shit and they have to be STRONG. Some guys have told me that sometimes if they express their feeling to someone they feel less of a man, weak, emotional.

but there are the guys who have just genuinely been hurt so much or bad that they don’t know what to say or how to express themselves when it comes to feelings. Like that part of their brain doesn’t work anymore or doesn’t exist so therefore they don’t have emotions. It’s crazy how many men I’ve met in my life that just would literally sit there, listen to me vent about my feelings for them and at the end would have NOTHING to say. It would be so hard to communicate with them because it felt like for me, they didn’t care.

3. Some people believe in love at first sight and even marriage at first sight. Do you think the length of time you’ve known/met a person is a huge deciding factor in regards to making a commitment to them? Does it really matter? and why or why not?

Love is personally one of my trickiest and most confusing feelings I’ve ever had to experience in my LIFE! This comes back to when I was saying how woman are emotional beings, we NEED LOVE!! No matter what any woman says or has been through, they want to be, and feel love!

I’ve experienced love at first sight, and I mean literally FIRST SIGHT. I didn’t know this man for 24hrs but when I looked at him it was like GOD spoke to me and said “That’s Him”. It was the HARDEST pill for me to swallow because I was scared out of my mind!! I knew what I felt in my heart, my body, my soul, was REAL, because I’d never felt this way just by looking at someone ever in my life!

It’s about feeling, you sometimes CAN NOT control how you feel about someone. No matter how much you fight it. If it’s real LOVE, it will NEVER GO AWAY.

I believe in love at first sight, I believe that time plays no factor on how you feel about someone because your first GUT feeling when you come meet someone is always how you really feel about them. Now things can always change after awhile, yes that is definitely possible but its up to you to know what’s real and what’s not. Go with how you feel, always. Time defines, time. You can never control time but you can control what you do with it.

4. Sex seems to play a major role in relationships. Should it play a major role and how important is the frequency of sex during the course of a relationship.

Goes back to the first question. Sex is only important to those who really enjoy it. You can look at sex in many different perspectives but if done responsibly it’s going to always bring you pleasure.

For some, respectfully sex doesn’t make or break a relationship, and that’s okay but me personally as I said before I enjoy sex and everything about it. Now it’s not required to have it everyday or every other day for a relationship to work out because if you be in a situation where you can’t see that person when you want to and distance becomes an issue, you can’t rely on sex to make things better or keep the relationship going. It has to be more than just sex that brings you and that person together and happiness.

Sex is something that you can say is one of the things that brings ya’ll together closer. Can’t be the only thing or the most important.

5. Some couples have been together for a very long time and they’ve probably had sex hundreds of times. How can a couple keep it spicy in the bedroom?

UNDERSTANDING! lol sorry but that word just keeps coming to my head. It’s important to have that ESPECIALLY during sex!!!! One thing about me I let a guy know straight up what I’m into, what my likes, dislikes and WILL NEVER IN THIS LIFETIME DO! One thing about me though, I’m open minded when it comes to sex….. to everything except for like 2 or 3 things lol but you do have to learn to have FUN!! Try new toys, games, hell even people. It’s all about you and your companion and trying things together can be REALLY fun as long as there is a MUTUAL UNDERSTANDING!! It’s all about WHATEVER your into and BOTH open and down to try… you never know how much pleasure you can give or receive unless you do different things!!! You only get one life! Have SAFE sex!! Tickle that inner sexual beast within you and turn the fuck up with you boo!!!

Joanne-Decor and Designs

1. What’s your recipe for a healthy and successful relationship?

Trust, communication, respect, honesty & being attractive to each other

2. Why do you think men in general have a hard time communicating their feelings?

Men are so different than women. I think men are just used to keeping things to themselves as if it were a secret. They have a problem with not only communicating their feelings but, communicating in general.

Of course, it takes a long time to get to know someone (personality, flaws, etc). I could never make a commitment to anyone I don’t really know. If you don’t know him/her, nine times out of ten, he/she doesn’t know you either and what kind of relationship would that be (pretending). One things for certain is it will not last for long. So, I believe in “LUST at first sight”.

4. Sex seems to play a major role in relationships. Should it play a major role and How important is the frequency of sex during the course of a relationship?

Yes, it should play a major role. If you are with someone who is wanting to have sex every day of the week but, you only want it once a month (if that), there will definitely be some problems in the relationship. Men most likely will cheat to satisfy their sexual desires.

5. Some couples have been together for a very long time and they’ve had sex probably hundreds of times. How can a couple keep it spicy in the bedroom?

By trying different things that each will enjoy. Definitely communicating what each likes.
Having fun & enjoying each other’s intimacy

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Linnea-Blogger, Motivator, Aspiring Author

1. What’s your recipe for a healthy and successful relationship?

Communication and Trust is KEY!!!! Jesus please communicate!! It’s a necessity for ANY relationship!

2. Why do you think men in general have a hard time communicating their feelings?

I think men don’t always know how to express themselves to us women, in a way that they feel we would understand.

I don’t think the length or how long you’ve known a person really matters. I believe that everyone has a soul mate out here and when you know ya KNOW!! It’s a feeling you cannot ignore nor deny!

4. Sex seems to play a major role in relationships. Should it play a major role and How important is the frequency of sex during the course of a relationship?

It should not. I’ve said it a million times and I’ll say it again. Strip away the sex from the relationship and What do you have left? Do you have anything left? If you want a solid relationship, then it must be built on something more than sex!

5. Some couples have been together for a very long time and they’ve had sex probably hundreds of times. How can a couple keep it spicy in the bedroom?

Gotta keep it spicy! Experiment with everything! Well..maybe not everything lol. Role play, and try different toys. Watch porn! Learn some new moves, tricks and new ways. You have to be open to new things which can satisfy you both!!! I mean its gonna get boring if you don’t make some type of effort! Have you checked out Kama Sutra and the art of satisfying. Just for example lol.

Get freaky and Get nasty lol!!

Thanks ALL for participating!😃

Linnea’s Intimate Project: The Queen Edition

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