Linnea’s Truth Serum

You call me your friend..

Yet you play with my weaknesses like they’re toys. You spew words of hate about me to others behind my back, attempting to cut down my soul. You intended to release my box of secrets after being sworn to secrecy. I can smell your bad energy before you enter any room. Your toxins are smothering me within our damaged circle. Your loyalty is invisible. The trust I once had for you is now extinct. You pretend to be happy for me, when I can clearly see the look of disgust in your eyes. Yes…the eyes tell it all. You can’t hide it no matter how hard you try. I can see right through you. I don’t understand. Please stop calling me your friend. You aren’t genuine and you know it. Deep down inside you hate me simply because I represent your deeply rooted, unaddressed misery. Your misery yearns for my company. But, I continuously decline and now I’m acting funny. That’s what you call it. I’m not acting funny. I just know I deserve better and I don’t do toxic. So just let me go in peace.

 

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Aftermath

To the Exonerated 5, if ever you get to read this. Please know that you are loved and supported forever! You all have survived what would’ve killed most of us. What you went through was not in vain. Your story is going to help people. Continue flourishing and living. 

 

I heard about Central Park 5 and I read about Central Park 5. It’s one of those awful stories you want to tuck away because it hurts too much. A painful reminder of the injustices we’ve faced and continue to face still to this day. I was 7 when it all unfolded. I watched Ava DuVernay’s 4 part series When They See Us on Netflix this past weekend and though there is another documentary out there. I knew that Ava would give us the rawest and truest version. She did not disappoint as she never does. I couldn’t bring myself to watch it right away because I wasn’t mentally prepared. But are we ever really prepared for such tragedies? So I clicked play and have been emotionally ignited ever since. I feel rage, sadness, disgust, and the tears continue. The more I watched, the more my heart broke. It broke into tiny little pieces for all of them. I wanted to jump right through the screen and help them. Can we talk about the epic portrayals though?!! The performances were more than compelling, filled with a rare conviction, and beyond amazing. Korey’s experience broke me all the way down completely. I have 2 sons and I saw them. I saw them and I lost it. I saw my sons getting continuously screamed at, brutalized, victimized, coerced, beaten, and falsely accused. I saw my sons sitting in those interrogation rooms scared, hungry, thirsty, broken, and drained. They were my sons and I saw red. There is something wicked in the amount of diabolical power that lives in a White Lie. I know what I need to do in this teachable moment. It’s what we all need to do in the Black Community. We need to arm our sons with endless shields of knowledge and awareness. We have to arm our sons in such a way that racist weapons formed against them shall never prosper. We need to arm all of our children and we have to continue to fight. Ava knew exactly what she was doing. I was always woke. Now, I’m wide awake.

 

Linnea

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DqI wrote this piece at the beginning of my anxiety/panic attacks diagnosis. I decided to share it on my blog. There are many people out there who suffer with this and there are many people out there who still don’t quite understand it. This was the best way I knew how to describe what my experience was like during my episodes, in my own creative way and what I still go through at times. It’s imperative that I share it because you need to know that my life is not always peachy and this is one of my struggles. A struggle that has shaped me into the woman I am today. A struggle that has birthed the mindset I have today. Step into my world temporarily and let me strip down naked… 

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I was laying out on the beach styling in my fuchsia soaked two piece, listening to the sounds of the ocean, and soaking up serenity. The sky was so beautiful and the wind was calm. The sun was shining so bright, sunkissing every inch of my body. I think it was in the low 80s that day. All I know is, I was in my element and it wasn’t that crowded at all which was perfect because I’ve never been a fan of large crowds. Funny how things can change in a matter of minutes or seconds even. I grew tired of laying down and wanted to go into the water a little. I walked towards the water where the waves were steady but not too strong and it felt good. I was truly in my happiest place. After a while, I could see the waves coming and they were crashing into me. Though I never was one to go out too deep anyway. The waves slowly but surely started creeping up, getting more,  and more aggressive. So of course I turned back around, hoping to get back over to my spot on the sand. I mean…I love a good wave crash, usually. But before I knew it, the tide engulfed me and carried me deep into the ocean. I was fighting to find my way back up to the surface and I did at one point. Actually at several points. But each time, I was dragged back down underneath of the water. Just when I thought I had escaped, the water would overcome me again. I was in a serious battle with this damn ocean and I was losing. I was holding my breath, attempting to swim, kicking, and just putting those good ole swimming lessons I picked up at a swim club to use, and trying to get to some air. I just needed some air. I was holding my breath in so hard, it felt like my head was going to explode. My arms and legs were cramping up on me. I was in distress and I had lost all control. I had absolutely no control over what was happening to me and I couldn’t get my rhythm back. You can be the best swimmer, REALLY! However, once you’ve entered a panic mode or lost total control, it won’t matter much. My body was feeling extremely weak, very numb and I didn’t have much fight left in me. Why was this happening to me? I was just enjoying myself a moment ago. Why me? I knew I didn’t deserve this. Then, everything became so still and quiet. I opened my eyes, my body was going limp, sinking deeper, and deeper into the bottom of the ocean. I was preparing to succumb but someone or something whispered to me, “It’s over now.”

I don’t know how. But, I ended up back in my spot on the sand where I was initially. I felt completely fine. Unscathed is a better word to describe it I guess.

 

ANXIETY AND PANIC ATTACKS ARE REAL! Don’t ever be afraid to seek help! 

Be well!

Interview with Jordan Joseph!

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Jordan Joseph had big dreams of becoming a singer since the age of 6, and has been working towards those dreams ever since. He is a true and genuine example of what determination, hard work, and focus looks like. At one point, Jordan was living out of his car while still working towards his goals and dreams. He never gave up which ultimately landed him a record deal with Nick Cannon and his Ncredible team. Jordan is working on his first EP. Recently, he allowed me to interview him and here’s what he had to say…
1. Where are you from?
I am from Kentwood by way of Grand Rapids, Michigan. Both Parents went to MSU so that’s where I was born the MSU campus.
2. What made you want to become a singer?
As a young boy my Step-Father was a producer to the stars and by 6 I was already dreaming of being a Backstreet Boy or in BOYZ2MEN. I would put on full shows to full albums making all my siblings dance as well. Music was a big part of my childhood at home and I dreamed of Hollywood as I had seen it but more than that I just loved the freedom of music and performing. It was an escape from my family issues.
 3. What does music mean to you?
 Music literally means the world to me. Music is a mood. Music is artist expression of a moment or story. What better way to feel something or make another heart feel something than by music, melodies, poetry etc.  Music literally means the world. I don’t even have a preferred genre, I love music. Real music makes you feel and can inspire an entire movement and change in the culture…in the world.
4. Who inspired you growing up?
Michael Jackson of course! Drake is also a big one. But I love so many artist of many genres. Usher and Chris Brown were big for me as well. I wanted to be a Backstreet Boy so there is that. Prince, J Holiday, Jon B. I am a huge Eminem fan and have been since “Slim Shady,” Since my dad worked with Usher and many other artist out at the time so many became huge inspirations. The Love frequency is were I want to live though.
5. Can you describe how your life has been impacted since working with Nick Cannon?
Wow, Since the moment with Nick I’ve spent most of my time rediscovering who “Jordan Joseph” the artist is. For so long the dream seemed more like chasing the sun. I didn’t realize how far I had run since I had become so use to running and surviving so far from home. I was once told “God will humble you in such a way that you will serve those that will one day serve you.” This stuck with me since because I have spent my life doing for others and working in the service industry. Since Nick I have been able to let up on that some. I have been able to get back to finding my voice having only know it in a group. I have spent much time with myself, but not as I was while living in my car but spiritually and mentally. As you saw there was a breathe of air ending my video with Nick, I’m currently breathing and finally working as an artist. I have experienced some very difficult moments in the business and its a lot of patience and confidence. I’m learning an loving. Most of all I’m coming!
6. You’re working on your first EP right? How is it going?
Yes, this is correct! Its coming along. This is a lot more work and waiting than imagine. I’m such a perfectionist an so in my head at times of recording music. To me everything can always “be better.” I’ve recorded some amazing music and met amazing producers. Still working on it though! Stay tuned! The music is so good!
7.What do you like to do in your free time?
  This is a hard one. In a real answer, “I don’t know.” Ive spent much of my life chasing the dream. I’m learning to live now that I have SOME time. I find myself at the movies solo a lot. I love to bowl! I love the beach! Man spent many nights at the beach looking at the moon and stars. Never know what you`ll see. Drop me in a room full of dreamers and great convo, otherwise look for me falling in love. I love the simple things. I haven’t been able to travel but I want to see the world. Share my story and spread some insight and love.
8. How do you stay so fit?
Listen, at 3 months old I was in a car accident that killed me. Thank God it wasn’t my time. The doctors said I wouldn’t walk, talk, or live as a normal child. I am very active! I love to try new things. I also worked at Equinox for 6 years and it created a healthy lifestyle for me in the gym and outside. Fitness and health is very important to me. Workout 3/5 times a week and eat healthy. I’m also a pescetarian.
9. What advice would you give to someone who maybe struggling and wanting to get into the music industry?
Never give up! If it is really in your heart and you dream about this, then never quit! The music industry is one of the hardest to break into for so many reasons. Its the industry where you can be who you want or who everyone wants you to be but there is NO easy way to break in. There is no right answer. Never forget to be true to who you are and measure success on your terms. I chose to be right to the world and somehow I landed a foot in the door. Now I am learning more about myself before I walk through it. You must walk with confidence in who you are. If you don’t believe who you are, how can you expect anyone else to? Have faith!!! And do everything from the heart.
10. What keeps you so grounded, humble, real, and down to earth?
You MUST take time for yourself yes, but what people don’t understand is you must also be present. Present in the world around you. Look up! Fall in love as it comes! Compliment and bring joy to others! Nothing feels better or feeds the heard and mind like bringing a sense of calm or joy to others. And as an artist these are the things you write and sing about. These are your stories. If that doesn’t help the gym and meditation daily helps!
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Thank you so much Jordan for taking time out!

Linnea’s Intimate Project: The King Edition

I asked a group of men and women the same exact questions, in order to gain different perspectives and understanding on Relationships and Sex. Here are the questions I asked and here’s what the Kings had to say…

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Jamell Crouthers-Author, Poet, Podcaster

1. What’s your recipe for a healthy and successful  relationship? 
I would say trust, honesty, communication, being self-aware of yourself and who you are, having a sense of yourself and not depending on your partner for happiness.
2. Why do you think men in general have a hard time communicating their feelings? 
You have to take the time to look at how society is structured and the messages being told to us. Being strong, don’t emote, hold it together, be a leader. It’s hard to emote when from a young age, you can’t even do it.
I’ll give you a basic scenario of a young boy who falls and hurts himself and he cries, how many times have you heard, toughen up, you’ll be fine. We don’t let young boys emote so that becomes instilled in their minds that they can’t be open, vulnerable and sensitive. It’s looked at as being soft.
Then a child grows into a man and they’re listening to the world and how women want a tough, strong man and we take that as we can’t be too emotive and sensitive so there are a lot of factors that play into it, those are just some examples.
That’s why I address that in  the books I write because the messages being conveyed to us are all wrong.
3. Some people still believe in love at first sight and even marriage at first sight. Do you think the length of time you’ve known/met a person is a huge deciding factor in regards to making a commitment to them? Does it really matter? And why or why not? 
Yes and no. I’ve known people who were together 7-8 years before getting married and it works and some who have known each other a few months and get married and it works. It’s all in how the relationship starts. As my mother has instilled in me, “how a relationship begins, is how it will continue.”
It’s all situational honestly, it’s all in communication and showing who you really are and not a representation of who you want the person to think you are or perceives you to be.
4. Sex seems to play a major role in relationships. Should it play a major role and How important is the frequency of sex during the course of a relationship?
It should play a role but you have to be careful in how you word it. If sex is all you have a relationship, then there’s no substance and it will eventually end. There has to be shared interests, different interests, learning and growing with each other and having mentally stimulating conversations about life, goals, fears and a plethora of others things that you both may find important.
5. Some couples have been together for a very long time and they’ve had sex probably hundreds of times. How can a couple keep it spicy in the bedroom? 
Definitely having conversations about what you like and don’t like. Listening to each other during sex and seeing what stimulates them and working off of that. A perfect example, if you’re both into role play, then you’re doing those things to keep it fun and interesting. Communicating that will keep things fun and interesting.
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Donte V.-Realtor, Investor
1. What’s your recipe for a healthy and successful  relationship? 

 

A good relationship requires three things communicating, dating, and understanding how their partner wants to be loved. Communication is important but if you aren’t comprehending the message your partner is trying to communicate or your partner isn’t able to communicate their message, your relationship is destined to fail. Dating is sometimes underrated; especially when you have a career and kids. Dating is the driving force behind two people getting together. There are few people (if any) that entered a relationship without spending time together. Dating helps in maintaining a relationship long term.  People in general require different things to happy. Take time to figure out what makes your partner happy and communicate what makes you happy.

 

2. Why do you think men in general have a hard time communicating their feelings? 

I think people have issues communicating. I think it starts with a person understanding themselves and what they are really feeling. It can be difficult to talk about the core cause of an emotion. For example, a husband may complain to their spouse about how they are upset with them for not cleaning, but the real issue may not be the cleaning.  It may be that the husband grew up in a household where his mom was more active in the house and not seeing their spouse clean doesn’t fit what he considers to be a good relationship.

 

3. Some people still believe in love at first sight and even marriage at first sight. Do you think the length of time you’ve known/met a person is a huge deciding factor in regards to making a commitment to them? Does it really matter? And why or why not? 

I believe the length of time you’ve known/met a person isn’t a huge deciding factor. I briefly met someone years ago and recently had the opportunity to know them better. Within a short period of time (a few months) I wanted to completely commit to that woman. I also had experiences where it took a few years before I wanted to completely commit to a woman. Its hard to deny a real connection. Some connections are immediate and others take time to build.

 

4. Sex seems to play a major role in relationships. Should it play a major role and How important is the frequency of sex during the course of a relationship?

This depends on the people in the relationship. I have a high sex drive so regular sex is important to me. The transferring of sexual energy with the one you love is one of the most amazing things to me; something I cannot get enough of.

 

5. Some couples have been together for a very long time and they’ve had sex probably hundreds of times. How can a couple keep it spicy in the bedroom? 

A couple will have to find a way to add variety and spontaneity to their sex life. Couples who has a strong sexual chemistry, who are sexually compatible, and open minded sexually should be able to keep things interesting.  Its all about understanding what is stimulating to you and your partner.

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Kevin Williams-Investor
1. What’s your recipe for a healthy and successful  relationship?
A healthy relationship is a balance of spontaneity, trust, and fun. If you have all of these components, then you’ll never look elsewhere to be satisfied.
2. Why do you think men in general have a hard time communicating their feelings?
Men have a hard time communicating their feelings because we are consistently viewed as protectors and are always taught to be tough. Many times it’s hard to communicate our feelings because we take on this role and become numb to the realities of life. Showing feelings are almost always associated with weakness which we can’t or are encouraged not to show.
3. Some people still believe in love at first sight and even marriage at first sight. Do you think the length of time you’ve known/met a person is a huge deciding factor in regards to making a commitment to them? Does it really matter? And why or why not?
I personally dont believe in love at first sight, but I do believe the length of time that you’ve known person has a huge factor in making a commitment because you can’t build a bond with an individual that you dont know on a personal level. For instance, in my current relationship my girlfriend wanted a relationship before I did because I had to know for sure that she was who I actually wanted to commit to.
4. Sex seems to play a major role in relationships. Should it play a major role and How important is the frequency of sex during the course of a relationship?
I think it should play a major role in a relationship because if you’re not satisfied with your partner, you tend to look elsewhere. If you’re satisfied, there’s no reason to cheat. Frequency is Important because some people constantly want sex and some dont. In a relationship, it’s important to meet somewhere in the middle so that both people are satisfied.
5. Some couples have been together for a very long time and they’ve had sex probably hundreds of times. How can a couple keep it spicy in the bedroom?
Couples can keep it spicy by being open and spontaneous. If you have a sexual routine, it’s a problem. There should be no beginning middle or end, everything should happen naturally. Me myself, will feel a female out and try to cater to what she like, but will also show her a few things I like. If she’s not feeling it then I move on to something different. It’s all about feeling your partner out.

 

74A371FC-A815-467E-BC2E-19056E81AEA8Kenneth Lonesome-Crew Leader in Environmental Construction

1. What’s your recipe for a healthy and successful  relationship? 

There’s a lot of recipes to build a healthy and successful relationship, but I think it really starts with the ingredients. You gotta be happy first. Like, as an individual. Then you can have success in relationships. I can really say you need a lot of communication, a lot of sex and a lot of sacrifice and understanding. But all that aint gonna matter if you miserable on the inside. You gotta be happy with yourself first, then you can share each other’s when y’all get together. That will make it easier to talk problems thru, focus on taking care of each other and being vulnerable.

2. Why do you think men in general have a hard time communicating their feelings?

I think men communicate their feelings very well, we just don’t, and/or only show the anger feeling. LOL Girls were shown it was ok to show feelings. Boys weren’t. Girls didn’t get fussed at for crying, boys do. Boys get hurt and get told to brush it off and walk it off. Girls get comforted. I think that upbringing shows girls its ok to be open and ultimately talking about things that are on their mind, good or bad. As to boys, we a shown that our feelings often don’t matter, and we have to brush it off and walk it off. We feel like shit in a lot of cases, and a simple conversation could have helped us. But we know people don’t see men and vulnerability as a good thing. A grown woman could cry in the middle of the mall right now and people would run and help…mostly men probably. LOL But let a man burst into tears in that same spot. The police would be trying to comfort him.

3. Some people still believe in love at first sight and even marriage at first sight. Do you think the length of time you’ve known/met a person is a huge deciding factor in regards to making a commitment to them? Does it really matter? And why or why not?

If we are talking about marriage, time of knowing someone does matter. If we are talking just a relationship, then fuck time. Marriage, you need time. To see if yall will mesh. Because y’all doing this for a lifetime, so its key to do things like spend lots of time together, practice communicating with each other and marriage counseling. Ultimately, no amount of time will prepare you for it all. You wont know a person, really, until they are in those certain situations that will cause them to move a certain way. And that thing may happen 25 fuckin years down the line…ya never know.

4. Sex seems to play a major role in relationships. Should it play a major role and How important is the frequency of sex during the course of a relationship?

Sex is just as big a factor as communication. It needs to be to both parties satisfaction. AND both people need to be open to at least hear and talk about each other’s desires. Whether they down with them or not. Sex is major. Sex will keep you from sexing someone else. LOL

5. Some couples have been together for a very long time and they’ve had sex probably hundreds of times. How can a couple keep it spicy in the bedroom? 

Keeping it spicy is a challenge after so many years. I think there’s plenty of things you can do from toys to positions to foods, etc. I think just having a desire for the other will always keep your shit jumping for each other. I’ve seen old ass couple kiss all up on each other. I know they have a level of attraction to each other that has maintained over the years. And that helps I’m sure.

Linnea’s Intimate Project: The Queen Edition

 

I asked a group of men and women (I answered these questions too) the exact same questions, in order to gain different perspectives on Relationships and Sex. Here are the questions I asked and here’s what some Queens had to say…

 

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LaToya-Author, Mother, Motivator

1.What’s your recipe for a healthy and successful relationship?

My recipe for a healthy relationship is communication and honesty. I’m a firm believer that you need to be able to talk about everything and get on the same page and have a happy relationship.

 2. Why do you think men in general have a hard time communicating their feelings?

Honestly, I feel like men are taught that they are not supposed to show their feelings because they will look vulnerable and soft. Society and our culture has made it look like they’re supposed to be so manly and strong.

3. Some people still believe in love at first sight and even marriage at first sight. Do you think the length of time you’ve known/met a person is a huge deciding factor in regards to making a commitment to them? Does it really matter? And why or why not?

Timeline of knowing someone doesn’t always say how they will treat you or commit. I have been in a situation where I was treated better by the person I had been with not long opposed to being cheated on by the person that I was with for years. Still a strong believer in love at first sight.

4. Sex seems to play a major role in relationships. Should it play a major role and How important is the frequency of sex during the course of a relationship?

 

Sex is always a tricky thing. It sometimes doesn’t matter how often if you really want to work more on other parts of the relationship. But if one or both are very sexually attracted to the other than frequency is very important

5. Some couples have been together for a very long time and they’ve had sex probably hundreds of times. How can a couple keep it spicy in the bedroom?

When trying to spicy up the bedroom, sometimes actually going back to the first time wows you. Reenacting the first date, first time you got together, and giving an effort will be an exciting thing to make you remember why you begin your relationship in the beginning.

Hope this helps someone!

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Myesha-Fitness Enthusiast, Women Empowerment

1.What’s your recipe for a healthy and successful relationship?

God first and foremost! Also just being present, neither person never stepping outside the ring. Marriage is a fight against the enemy trying to tear to them apart.

2. Why do you think men in general have a hard time communicating their feelings?
Some men are taught that it’s their job to be tuff, and the woman’s job to be emotional. Or they just simply don’t know Jesus.
3. Some people still believe in love at first sight and even marriage at first sight. Do you think the length of time you’ve known/met a person is a huge deciding factor in regards to making a commitment to them? Does it really matter? And why or why not?
I don’t believe the length of time matters, if god made them for you there is no stopping it.

4. Sex seems to play a major role in relationships. Should it play a major role and How important is the frequency of sex during the course of a relationship?

No it shouldn’t solely be based on physical intimacy. I don’t believe you should be in it if that’s the only thing you’re concerned about mainly. Sex to me is the most enjoyable when it happens spontaneously.
5. Some couples have been together for a very long time and they’ve had sex probably hundreds of times. How can a couple keep it spicy in the bedroom?
By simply reminding your partner, that you know their wants and continually using your creative juices lol to steer the ship lol.
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Shanita“ Amazing” Williams-Poet, Entrepreneur

1. What’s your recipe for a healthy and successful  relationship?

Study your mate…learn their likes and dislikes so repetitive arguments don’t occur. Communicate…no topic should be off limits. Don’t just hear, listen…there’s a difference. Respect each other…you know damn well what boundaries shouldn’t be crossed so be prepared for the consequences if you decide to venture outside those boundaries. Similar goals…both should be driven to do better and want better. Sexual compatibility…your nasty must match your mates.

2. Why do you think men in general have a hard time communicating their feelings?

Men associate feelings with vulnerability…to be vulnerable is to be soft. So not true. Communicating your feelings doesn’t make you vulnerable…trusting someone with your feelings does. Choose your mate wisely.

3. Some people still believe in love at first sight and even marriage at first sight. Do you think the length of time you’ve known/met a person is a huge deciding factor in regards to making a commitment to them? Does it really matter? And why or why not?

Yes I think you should get to know someone in depth before committing because you have scenarios where someone impersonates being decent and thats not the case. However, twin flames, soulmates and the like are a different story because you may have already spent a lifetime with this person…your souls are already intimate.

4. Sex seems to play a major role in relationships. Should it play a major role and How important is the frequency of sex during the course of a relationship?

Well yeah! Major! I am a sensual being by nature and physical contact is muy importante’!😁 I’m busy trying to secure the bag so unfortunately I don’t have a lot of play time but a bomb ass session and a quickie or two with cuddles, kisses and groping in between is good for the week. It may sound harsh but truthfully, if amazing sex is not part of our relationship…we don’t have one.

5. Some couples have been together for a very long time and they’ve had sex probably hundreds of times. How can a couple keep it spicy in the bedroom?

5. Some couples have been together for a very long time and they’ve had sex probably hundreds of times. How can a couple keep it spicy in the bedroom?

Stay attractive to each other…Try new things; toys, places, positions. Have fun. Don’t be a selfish lover, it’s not just about you. Be attentive and don’t view sex as a chore. When you do it’s a wrap.

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Candice-Poet, Writer
1. What’s your recipe for a healthy and successful relationship?
A big thing for me would be UNDERSTANDING! You can talk to someone all day everyday about whatever it is that you want from them or what you want in general but if they don’t take the time to actually UNDERSTAND and COMPREHEND what it is then you’re just having a open, no end conversation.
Sex!!!! I’m not saying we have to have sex EVERY single day but at least a few times a week, because I’m a very sexual person and enjoy being touched and touching. I enjoy everything about sex and the actual pleasure that you bring to someone and receive in return can be AMAZING  if the chemistry is right with that person and if you once again have UNDERSTANDING! Lol.
Trust of course plays a MAJOR role in any type of relationship so I feel like that’s pretty much self-explanatory
Goals, I’ve been in relationships where it literally never went very far simply because we didn’t know how far we wanted to take things, and having goals in a relationship can go in different directions but if we don’t have a real purpose and really know where or what we are doing with the time we’re spending with each other then really what’s the point?
One last thing for me would have to be, we have to have built our relationship off of a friendship. I don’t see how people can meet someone and rush to be serious with that person without building some type of friendship in the process. When I do eventually find my soul mate or husband, we’re going to be the BEST of friends. We got to have each others back NO MATTER WHAT!! and at the same time be comfortable around each other and genuinely happy.
2. Why do you think men in general have a hard time communicating their feelings?
Easy! Because they’ve been hurt. I mean me as a woman we are meant to be emotional beings so it’s sometimes easier for us to express how we feel because we are built for it.
I’ve actually asked a few guys that I know this same question and they pretty much have given me the same answer. Either it’s an ego thing (you know men take that seriously) and they feel like as a MAN they aren’t built to be all emotional and shit and they have to be STRONG. Some guys have told me that sometimes if they express their feeling to someone they feel less of a man, weak, emotional.
but there are the guys who have just genuinely been hurt so much or bad that they don’t know what to say or how to express themselves when it comes to feelings. Like that part of their brain doesn’t work anymore or doesn’t exist so therefore they don’t have emotions. It’s crazy how many men I’ve met in my life that just would literally sit there, listen to me vent about my feelings for them and at the end would have NOTHING to say. It would be so hard to communicate with them because it felt like for me, they didn’t care.
3. Some people believe in love at first sight and even marriage at first sight. Do you think the length of time you’ve known/met a person is a huge deciding factor in regards to making a commitment to them? Does it really matter? and why or why not?
Love is personally one of my trickiest and most confusing feelings I’ve ever had to experience in my LIFE! This comes back to when I was saying how woman are emotional beings, we NEED LOVE!! No matter what any woman says or has been through, they want to be, and feel love!
I’ve experienced love at first sight, and I mean literally FIRST SIGHT. I didn’t know this man for 24hrs but when I looked at him it was like GOD spoke to me and said “That’s Him”. It was the HARDEST pill for me to swallow because I was scared out of my mind!! I knew what I felt in my heart, my body, my soul, was REAL, because I’d never felt this way just by looking at someone ever in my life!
It’s about feeling, you sometimes CAN NOT control how you feel about someone. No matter how much you fight it. If it’s real LOVE, it will NEVER GO AWAY.
I believe in love at first sight, I believe that time plays no factor on how you feel about someone because your first GUT feeling when you come meet someone is always how you really feel about them. Now things can always change after awhile, yes that is definitely possible but its up to you to know what’s real and what’s not. Go with how you feel, always. Time defines, time. You can never control time but you can control what you do with it.
4. Sex seems to play a major role in relationships. Should it play a major role and how important is the frequency of sex during the course of a relationship.
Goes back to the first question. Sex is only important to those who really enjoy it. You can look at sex in many different perspectives but if done responsibly it’s going to always bring you pleasure.
For some, respectfully sex doesn’t make or break a relationship, and that’s okay but me personally as I said before I enjoy sex and everything about it. Now it’s not required to have it everyday or every other day for a relationship to work out because if you be in a situation where you can’t see that person when you want to and distance becomes an issue, you can’t rely on sex to make things better or keep the relationship going. It has to be more than just sex that brings you and that person together and happiness.
Sex is something that you can say is one of the things that brings ya’ll together closer. Can’t be the only thing or the most important.
5. Some couples have been together for a very long time and they’ve probably had sex hundreds of times. How can a couple keep it spicy in the bedroom?
UNDERSTANDING! lol sorry but that word just keeps coming to my head. It’s important to have that ESPECIALLY during sex!!!! One thing about me I let a guy know straight up what I’m into, what my likes, dislikes and WILL NEVER IN THIS LIFETIME DO! One thing about me though, I’m open minded when it comes to sex….. to everything except for like 2 or 3 things lol but you do have to learn to have FUN!! Try new toys, games, hell even people. It’s all about you and your companion and trying things together can be REALLY fun as long as there is a MUTUAL UNDERSTANDING!! It’s all about WHATEVER your into and BOTH open and down to try… you never know how much pleasure you can give or receive unless you do different things!!! You only get one life! Have SAFE sex!! Tickle that inner sexual beast within you and turn the fuck up with you boo!!!
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Joanne-Decor and Designs

1. What’s your recipe for a healthy and successful relationship?

Trust, communication, respect, honesty & being attractive to each other

2. Why do you think men in general have a hard time communicating their feelings?

Men are so different than women. I think men are just used to keeping things to themselves as if it were a secret. They have a problem with not only communicating their feelings but, communicating in general.

3. Some people still believe in love at first sight and even marriage at first sight. Do you think the length of time you’ve known/met a person is a huge deciding factor in regards to making a commitment to them? Does it really matter? And why or why not?

Of course, it takes a long time to get to know someone (personality, flaws, etc). I could never make a commitment to anyone I don’t really know. If you don’t know him/her, nine times out of ten, he/she doesn’t know you either and what kind of relationship would that be (pretending). One things for certain is it will not last for long. So, I believe in “LUST at first sight”.

4. Sex seems to play a major role in relationships. Should it play a major role and How important is the frequency of sex during the course of a relationship?

Yes, it should play a major role. If you are with someone who is wanting to have sex every day of the week but, you only want it once a month (if that), there will definitely be some problems in the relationship. Men most likely will cheat to satisfy their sexual desires.

5. Some couples have been together for a very long time and they’ve had sex probably hundreds of times. How can a couple keep it spicy in the bedroom?

By trying different things that each will enjoy. Definitely communicating what each likes.
Having fun & enjoying each other’s intimacy

 

 

 

 

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Linnea-Blogger, Motivator, Aspiring Author

1. What’s your recipe for a healthy and successful relationship?

Communication and Trust is KEY!!!! Jesus please communicate!! It’s a necessity for ANY relationship!

2. Why do you think men in general have a hard time communicating their feelings?

I think men don’t always know how to express themselves to us women, in a way that they feel we would understand.

3. Some people still believe in love at first sight and even marriage at first sight. Do you think the length of time you’ve known/met a person is a huge deciding factor in regards to making a commitment to them? Does it really matter? And why or why not?

I don’t think the length or how long you’ve known a person really matters. I believe that everyone has a soul mate out here and when you know ya KNOW!! It’s a feeling you cannot ignore nor deny!

4. Sex seems to play a major role in relationships. Should it play a major role and How important is the frequency of sex during the course of a relationship?

It should not. I’ve said it a million times and I’ll say it again. Strip away the sex from the relationship and What do you have left? Do you have anything left?  If you want a solid relationship, then it must be built on something more than sex!

5. Some couples have been together for a very long time and they’ve had sex probably hundreds of times. How can a couple keep it spicy in the bedroom?

Gotta keep it spicy! Experiment with everything! Well..maybe not everything lol. Role play, and try different toys. Watch porn! Learn some new moves, tricks and new ways. You have to be open to new things which can satisfy you both!!! I mean its gonna get boring if you don’t make some type of effort! Have you checked out Kama Sutra and the art of satisfying. Just for example lol.

Get freaky and Get nasty lol!!

 

 

 

Thanks ALL for participating!😃

Interview with Dominique Loude!

 

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Dominique Loude has been dancing since the age of 10 which ultimately landed her a well deserved spot dancing alongside Beyoncé. Dominique is an inspiration to MANY and is building her own empire. She recently allowed me to interview her…

1. Where are you from?

Detroit, MI

2. At what age did you start dancing and How would you describe your dancing style?

I started dancing at the age of 10 but didn’t take it Seriously until I was 16. I would say I’m a pretty versatile dancer but my go-to is dancing in heels

3. What made you want to get into dancing?
I was a kid that did everything. From playing the piano to singing. One day I decided to take a dance class and the rest is history. I fell in love with it.
4. Who inspired you growing up?
Growing up my biggest inspiration was my mom because of how strong she was. I watched her endure so much pain and she never folded.
5. If you could only use 3 words to describe your experience on OTR2 tour, What words would you use?
Growth, love, and happiness
6. How has being on that tour impacted your life to this day?
This tour made me love myself more and realize that I deserve everything coming my way. It opened up more doors for me and changed my outlook on life period. Working with Beyonce made me realize the work is never done. There’s always more. More to give more to do. My work ethic was already crazy lol but now it’s like what’s next. I can always go harder.
7. What do you like to do in your free time?
I don’t have much free time but when I do I like to chill lol. Sometimes go out with my friends
8. What advice would you give to someone wanting to become a Professional Dancer?
Believe in yourself. Work like your already successful. Train train and more training!!! Do your homework! Stretch!
9. What keeps you so grounded, humble, real and down to earth?
I know where I come from and I know that as quick as something can be given it can be taken away!
10. Any new projects you’re working on and can tell us about?
Working on my dance line and looking for a building for my dance studio.
Thank you so much for taking time out and You are truly an inspiration to us all!